my dps grandma seems to think she is some kind of posh peggy michel figure and tries to rule the entire family, inc my family. she tells me off (yes tells me off like i am a disobidient child) because i dont cook my dps dinner ready for when he gets homs from work and i even got ridiculed for buying dp patterned socks not plain like she used to buy him. it drives me so crazy i dont like being around her and dred family events like dds christening incase she acts like that to my family. she also always lectures me on my many faults as a mother, apparently i dont feed dd the right food, dont dress her properly (she had a rolling stones tshirt and jeggings for just around the house). she makes me feel like im just not good enough.
you have to understand dp is like her little prince who can do no wrong and she has actually told me that my job is to look after him. she is always getting involved in our life, she constantly goes on about us not having a car (which we couldnt even afford petrol for if we did have one) and even asks me why im not giving dp money so he can do more driving lessons, which i think is insane because i am.the one paying the bills and buying the food even though i earn less than dp (he pays the rent). she once told me i clearly wasnt brought up properly because i dared to wear a sleevless top in the winter, to an indoors event, underneath a coat. she seems to think everyone should do everything for her and that every desicion should be made based on how she feels, guest lists to our events have to be run by her and she even tries to get involved in how i chose to give birth! apparently a water birth isnt "proper" and i "seem like the type who wont cope without "real pain relief".
i really find it hard to cope with her being like this but dp always says "im sure she didnt mean it like that" and that im taking it too much to heart. i know this seems like just a huge rant but i really am not sure how much longer i can put up with her being like this as i see her weekly and she is like this every time. am i just being over sensitive or would this behaviour upset you aswell? should i say something and risk upsetting dp?