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Teenage DD safety concern

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Redskys · 24/04/2013 16:15

AIBU to stop my 15 year old DD jogging alone in an isolated area because of my fears about her personal safety. She cannot understand my concerns and thinks they are unjustified.

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squeakytoy · 24/04/2013 16:18

YANBU at all.


Mabelface · 24/04/2013 16:20

How isolated?


livinginwonderland · 24/04/2013 16:28

how isolated? are there any places where she could run instead? what time does she go running?

if she's just crossing a deserted field in the middle of the day, then YABU, but if she's somewhere isolated for a long period of time after dark, YANBU. it depends on the circumstances.


OkayHazel · 24/04/2013 17:22

Pretty sure a 15 year old can go for a jog and come home in one piece.

Where is she running OP, the Gaza Strip?


MrTumblesTreasureMap · 24/04/2013 17:38

YANBU. Why take the risk of there is a less isolated place she could run instead. When I was 13, we were crossing a deserted field in the middle of the day and a nice chap walking there decided to yank down his trousers and start wanking for us. Scary things don't just happen after dark.


MrTumblesTreasureMap · 24/04/2013 17:39

If there is*


Dahlen · 24/04/2013 17:42

We might need to know a bit more about context.

However, your DD is at a much higher risk of being assaulted, kidnapped, raped or murdered every time she goes out in a built up area in the evening.


Dahlen · 24/04/2013 17:42

Which is still relatively low risk BTW (before I result in you not allowing her to go anywhere at all Wink).


Redskys · 24/04/2013 18:51

I realise it may seem I am being over protective as she is 15. I am usually quite easy going as a mum of 2 older children as well, whom have done the usual teenage stuff. I just feel uneasy about her jogging on her own. It would be in the early evening around a large lake. I have suggested getting a friend to go but unfortunately no one else is interested in going. I know the chances of being attacked are very small but can't shake off my concerns.

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thebody · 24/04/2013 18:53

Go with her on a byke. That's what I do. Good for us both.


VenusRising · 24/04/2013 18:55

Yes, was just going to say, go with her.
My mum and I used to exercise together every evening, it's good fun!


lljkk · 24/04/2013 19:15

Are there not dogwalkers around in large numbers at same time?


livinginwonderland · 24/04/2013 19:18

if you're worried, go with her. you can't really stop her from going jogging, although it's understandable that you're concerned.


Fairylea · 24/04/2013 19:23

I wouldn't want dd to go out alone somewhere like that to be honest although I am a hypocrite as I enjoy nothing more than total solitude in the countryside. Hmm.

If she is determined to go arm her with a personal alarm and ask her not to have her iPod plugged in her ears as she won't hear what's going on around her.

Someone sneaked up on me from behind and attacked me once and I had no idea they were there at all until they actually touched me as I had been listening to music.


WilsonFrickett · 24/04/2013 19:23

I have a friend who mithers me about the route I choose to walk home alone at night. She lives in a dodgy part of the city, I live in a small village. Statistically she is at much more risk than me. The bogey man doesn't just come out in dark, quiet places.

I think it's really, really hard but I'd let her do it. I think. I hope I would anyway. Ask me in 10 years I guess Confused


WilsonFrickett · 24/04/2013 19:24

Sorry, meant to also say about not listening to music and carrying an alarm but fairylea got there first.


somedayma · 24/04/2013 20:24

that would worry me too


Redskys · 24/04/2013 20:24

Thanks for your comments. I think I need to stop watching Crime Watch.No doubt there will be plenty more situations which I will have little control in a few years as she is now talking of having a cap year around America.

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