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To wonder if I should call Social Services?

35 replies

fluffyanimal · 23/04/2013 12:29

I'm posting here mainly to get the traffic, so I expect a wide range of robust responses Grin

About this time last year I started a thread about a time when I nearly ran over a small toddler I found wandering in the middle of the street near where I park for work. Here's the thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1438862-What-else-could-I-should-I-have-done-for-this-child
Brief summary - I couldn't find an adult in sight and didn't know which house he came out of, but then a teenage girl turned up who said she knew him and I left him in her care.

The majority view seemed to be on that thread was that there wasn't much more I should have done at the time. A few people thought I was being judgey, which I may have been.

Well more things have happened. I guess you don't forget the face of a child you nearly run over, and I have seen this small boy now on a few occasions and know which house he lives in. The first thing that has been concerning me is that for several months now, there has been a broken beer bottle on the front step coming down from the short path from their front door to the pavement. The broken glass has been there for literally months. Nobody has cleared it up, and still I see the boy, his mother and older siblings coming out of their front door regularly.

Then today I was walking from my parking space to work when I suddenly saw the child run straight across the road, alone, again no adult in sight. The front of the house faces onto a busy main road, with a primary school opposite so around 9am there are always lots of cars, plus the road is a bus route and about 100m away from a junction with the city inner ring road. Myself and a few other women saw him run across the road and we stopped to see if his mother was around, possibly just dropping off older children at the school opposite the house. She wasn't; the front door was wide open. Another woman who had been dropping her kids off at the school then came along, recognised the boy and took him back across the road to his house where his mother came out and yelled at him for being naughty.

So basically that's twice I've witnessed this boy being able to get out of his house unseen and run across a road, the second time a much busier road, and it's been up to passing adults to take him back to safety, plus there's the broken glass still on his doorstep.

So what would you do? Is this the point where I should call SS, or should I decide it's none of my business? All views appreciated, because I can't stop thinking about it.

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ryanboy · 23/04/2013 14:32

. You are only coming to and from your car a few minutes a day and iyet in that short time slot ave seen him be nearly knocked down twice.
I would ring them and then they, the professionals can decide what to do about it and your conscience is clear.

MrsTerryPratchett · 23/04/2013 14:37

Michellephant I was going to post the exact same. If you think, "should I call" then you should. It is up to SWs to decide if there is an issue.

LimitedEditionLady · 23/04/2013 15:01

Once,id think ok maybe mum forgot to lock the door and she turned round and he had gone.Although she didnt notice he had gone or didnt care because you didnt see her come out for him for more than a minute or so.second time?id ring.not to be a busy body or cause upset just so she is perhaps reminded that its dangerous.its on your conscience,its bothering you.she wont kniw its you and youll prob never know what came of it but youll know you tried.

EhricLovesTeamQhuay · 23/04/2013 15:04

Yes you must.

fluffyanimal · 23/04/2013 17:43

Thanks everyone for confirming what I felt. I will call in the morning. Will let you know what they say.

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DeweyDecibelle · 23/04/2013 18:57

You could call the NSPCC for advice. You can do it anonymously and if they feel it's worth investigating, they will refer it to children's services anyway. Either way it would put your mind at rest.

Theyoniwayisnorthwards · 23/04/2013 19:02

Call. DP works in child protection and seconds what Michellelephant said.

fluffyanimal · 24/04/2013 16:12

I've called. I feel a bit weird about it, but the lady I spoke to (not a trained SW but someone who takes the phone calls and passes on the info) was very nice and said it would now be up to the SWs to decide what action if any to take and their first option is always to find ways of helping and supporting families. So I hope that's what happens.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 24/04/2013 16:15

Thanks As an ex-SS bod it really helps when people report issues.

fubbsy · 24/04/2013 16:26

Good for you fluffy you have done the right thing.

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