To think I may need to ask for help on this one

[cuteboots]

Over the past few weeks my sons teacher has been keeping me informed about a few bouts of bad behaviour in the class. Its not just my son apparently but im not having it hence being in close contact with her. Anyway all my attempts to help stop this behaviour dont seem to be working and Im just getting really upset/ frustrated. Ive tried stopping him going to football/ taking his games away/ early nights . Im not seeing the behaviour at home and Im at a loss as to how I can get him back on track. Any help/ comments would be appreciated. Hes nine and a half if this helps ; 0 (

Can you expand cuteboots? What kind of bad behaviour are we talking about here?

Also...has DS had anything in his life that has changed recently?

Can you do rewards rather than punishment? Marbles in a jar each day the teacher says he's been better and a treat when he gets a certain number.

If he's in trouble in school and at home he's going to get resentful and angry, but not necessarily better behaved.

Children, and adults for that matter, are not logical beings. We tend focus far more on being annoyed with being caught doing wrong and being punished than on modifying our behaviour.

Your DS is still young enough to be impulsive and silly first and think second. If others misbehave too it's very hard not to join in. Positive encouragement to think first is the way to go if at all possible.

9-11 is an age of limit testing while still in the safety of primary school, many classes do it. The DDs lovely teacher expected it and was brilliant at being gentle, but firm, while ensuring her class still had fun.

Ok so I have agreed with his teacher that we have a behaviour book so that she can keeep me informed each day about how hes doing. the behaviour ranges from talking over the teacher and just being a bit rude to trying to disrupt the other children ; 0(. The only thing I can think of is that he really misses his dad more than hes letting me know. Apart from that there is nothing major that would cause this that Im aware of.

I could maybe try the reward system instead of taking things away to see if this also helps