Tbh I don't care If I am, some parents need to get a grip

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I give you A-Jay, Charlidh, Ameiliah, Blaiyre, Boudicca, Blu-rayne, Foozy, Deztany-Rose, Madison-Bluebell

My favourite is Wyntrr. They could at least have added an h to the end though.

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If I behave like a wanker I expect to be called on it, and in turn I may judge someone else's behaviour.

But judging things like a name is pretty wankerish

MrsDV, I'm pretty sure I recall some posts of yours that I felt were pretty judgemental (something to do with a parent in front of you in a queue for burgers - please do forgive me if I've muddled you with somebody else though), but it's pretty subjective what one views as judgemental anyway.

Does this particular thing bug you so much because of your DC's name?

If so, I understand and I'm sorry that's the case, but we all have our judgy crosses to bear... I have non-mainstream views about a lot of things and I get judged the shit out of all the time, but I get by

DD has a slightly unusual name that sounds a bit like a male name in another language.

A mother (from a relevant ethnicity), not being familiar with DDs actual name, suggested I had given her a boy name.

It would be ludicrous to try and say it was racist of her; at worst it was a bit ignorant, and perhaps a bit rude to actually suggest I had misnamed my child, but all people can't know everything about everything.

In a multicultural world I think ignorance not knowing everything has to be generally a bit forgivable.

And apologies, MrsDV, my memory's not what it was...

Everybody judges; it's what you do with it that counts.

Absolutely. In real life, most of us adhere to the "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" dictum, especially with regards to people's names.

So long as the posters on this thread who've expressed a negative opinion of this or that name don't actually go around saying that in real life, to people with those particular names, why is it so beyond the pale to discuss it on a website?

As I've already said, my DS's name's been slated on baby name threads before. I can't imagine being so thin skinned that I'd be hurt or offended by it. Many people on MN don't like his name but so bloody what? Yes if someone said directly to me, in real life, that his name was awful then I'd think them extremely rude. But if its an online discussion where opinions have been asked for then it's fair enough to be honest about what you think.

MrsDV
I backed away from Asher as I thought it was a bit too posh :) Great name. I won't say what we went for but I guess people think its common.

One of the things that surprises me is how much people care about this. It's just not that important. I certainly couldnt give a toss if someone else used 'my' name. It's just a name. All names were made up once. I think its in Chinese culture that a name is often just made up from words and is therefore fairly unique. I worked with a woman who's name translates to 'Blue skies'. I think its beautiful.

Asher is a lovely name.

I have no cultural references for it (aside from the lad from So Solid and the 80s/90s rapper by the same name).

Is it zooming up the charts now?

Totally agree with something and sherbert

I understand and agree with what your saying mrsdevere I might think in my head of god that's an awful name but I would never say anything or think someone would grow up to be a slag or a shit because of their name.

With the woman who called her child amphetamine I can't help but judge to me naming your child after your favourite drug is shocking and should be a red flag to ss. Can't believe the registra let her name her daughter that.

I'm bored shitless by all the judgy baby name threads on here.I'm surprised no one has mentioned freakonomics.

Actually a thread slagging off some names was deleted the other night for being beyond the pale.

I'm just judging the judgers

I seriously have seen someone on here going, 'And there's a child at school called Tomasz, just imagine!' type of thing.

I totally judge people who don't have wit to think it might just be an alternative spelling or from a different culture.

I object to poster asserting that it is ok to treat/think about people differently based on names.
To have fixed ideas about people based on their names.

In all fairness, I don't think anyone has, have they?

No-one behind the age of 13 seriously thinks it's OK to 'treat/think about people differently' and to have 'fixed ideas' about people based on names.

Surely all we're really talking about is people making assumptions, which are either fulfilled or not fulfilled on a better acquaintance with the person (or parents!) in question...?

I mean, really, it's impossible to go through life without making any judgements at all, especially on first impression with a person or situation. It's impossible. We're human. We take all our previous experiences to move forward and better understand future experiences.

The thing with the Internet is that it allows people to get an insight into people's brains and genuine thoughts like never before. Before there was no outlet for people to say what they're really thought, but the advent of discussion forums has changed that behind recognition. And sometimes people are very, very surprised to learn what people are actually thinking.

I sometimes think of certain conversations, banter and ribbing that DH and I have, or I/we have with friends and know that if it was overheard, it would sound beyond the pale. I'm not talking about being deliberately provocative, racist, offensive or whatever, but life is too short to smooth over all your views into one pale shade of vanilla so that you have no opinions left.

I know a girl called Lyndzi. Pronounced Lindsay. Was a bit shocked tbh.

Objecting to someone looking down on someone because of their name doesn't make me vanilla. My opinion on these threads might be different from the majority but they are just as valid.I think following the crowd makes you boring and bland.

Only 2 out of my 7 DC names are on that list

I think following the crowd makes you boring and bland, too.

I really love unusual names, but they have to be non-ridiculous.

To be fair I don't think anyone looks down on the child usual - they just think their parents are a bit daft. Seriously, I have nothing against modern names, and will defend the right to name your child whatever the heck you like even if I hate it, and I realise that some names are spelt exactly as they would be in another language - fair enough. But I will JUDGE JUDGE JUDGE people who have English as a first language and yet choose ludicrous, convoluted, made-up, gimmicky, clunky, utterly unpronouncable spellings. It does make the parent look like:

a twat
illiterate
a sandwich short of a picnic
about 14.