To think this doesn't class as cooking dinner for DCs?

[unlucky83]

I'm a SAHM and DP works early in morning...
DP doesn't do anything else -I get up with DCs, get them to bed, school run, cleaning, washing, gardening, DIY -he doesn't even look after the cars or the bills....
We agreed that it would be fair if 2-3 times a week he could make dinner for DCs (and himself - he often makes things for himself that he likes and we don't)...if there is enough for me fine -otherwise I'll find something ...
I do batch cooking of bolognaise and chilli - big pans and freeze in portions. So it is just a matter of cooking a pan of rice or pasta and microwaving the 'sauce'... great if I don't feel like cooking, late back etc...
He has just said it isn't his turn to cook for them as he made dinner last night ...they had my batch chilli - so he did cook the rice...
(he has done that before -but we haven't had the it isn't my turn because... conversation before)
So am I being unreasonable to think that he shouldn't count that as him cooking their dinner - seeing as I did the hardest part?

I don't get the 'turn taking' though- surely just someone should make dinner, whoever is most able at that time, ie not busy with something else. That's how it works in our house anyway. You should both stop trying to score points!

I am not sure it is about unreasonableness. When I get to the point in my relationship with DS that I'm starting to feel resentful that he hasn't emptied the dishwasher much or I'm doing all the cooking I think I need to start thinking about what our relationship is.

What I mean to say that ever marriage/relationship with kids involved should be a partnership but that also we should play to our strengths just as you would do in a work situation for example. So every time I am cross with DH for something I try (doesn't always work) to remind myself that he does other stuff that I am less keen to do but because I am less keen to do it I probably don't apportion it much value..

Being cross about the small things is almost always a sign that the big things need reviewing a little

must be the emergency red wine brought on by DH stress that is making me so philosophical tonight

I think its a good idea for hin to a few days a week. I just think it becomes unreasonable when you start saying you can't touch certain foods because you can't alwats make a meal from scratch that day.

I don't get why you don't just all eat the same

I cannot imagine circumstances where I would cook a meal and not make enough to feed everyone in the house, I really can't.

I think you are being a bit unreasonable about the chili, though. It was food. He fed them.

Does his beef stew not count as batch cooking if sufficient for 3-4 nights? can this not be frozen - not sure why you have to be a martyr and 'use it up'?

I too would be far more pissed off about the different meal shenanigans than who 'owns' the batch cooked meals

I think he should do his fair share of the cooking but for the love of god there must be an easier way

The cooking bit is supposed to be playing to his strengths!

We are both usually around at that time of the day .. .I could do it but then he wouldn't do anything - and that would really annoy me!

Like I said one (older) DC doesn't like anything at the moment - if it is something like roast beef there are groans and moans - it all becomes a battle -(hopefully she will grow out of it - worse cos younger DC copies her ...) - so tend to pander to her a bit to then at least we can have some pleasant meal times - all she wants to eat is pasta with grated cheese...
I can't eat fish - younger Dc likes it -older Dc only if battered or breaded at the moment ...so that kind of thing it is good for DP to cook for them ...
Things like the beef stew is not batch cooking (especially seeing as DCs won't eat it) he eats it one night then it sits in the fridge - he is going to eat it later - no he really is going to eat it ...until it is a bit too old to be frozen -like now! (either me or the cat...)
Raspberrysorbet I've done that more than once ...either to use up pasta or cos I haven't been paying attention taking things out the freezer ... also had rice and bolognaise ...