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AIBU?

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To want some lunch?

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 22/04/2013 12:48

Seriously.

I am wondering if there is something wrong with me, from my boss/husband's reaction. (same person. My husband is also my boss, sort of. When I do work for his company on an adhoc basis. Which is where I am now)

My breakfast this morning was 3 cups of coffee and an apple. It is after 12:30, I have a meeting in an hour and I am hungry!

He needed to nip out so I said would you get me some lunch please. He gave me a funny smile and said ok. Like there was something wrong with me wanting lunch on account of the fact I have had a bloody red delicious this morning!

He then said "you know me, I don't need to eat"

I just feel, actually feel, like perhaps I am greedy or unreasonable for wanting lunch, since I have already eaten an apple today. Like I shouldn't need to eat again yet.

Part of me thinks he is ridiculous and just because he eats once a day (but his meals would, honestly, feed a family of 6! He can eat an entire joint by himself!) doesn't mean there's anything wrong with me wanting to eat twice or 3 times a day.

But there's another part of me that thinks am I greedy? Is that how it seems if you have an apple and then want some lunch when you know you will be having dinner in the evening.

I can't believe that I actually have to in all seriousness ask this, but I genuinely feel really judged.

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ENormaSnob · 22/04/2013 16:11

An apple for breakfast

My stomach would think my throat had been cut.

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 22/04/2013 16:30

Yep, I don't eat breakfast, I feel sick and full in a morning. when the full feeling wears off, I feel hungry sick, iyswim. This can be any time from lunch time to about 3pm.

My husband is the same. If he's not hungry then nobody's hungry he can't understand how someone can be hungry if he doesn't feel it.

yes, parsley. That's me. I am a total bitch if you see me on here being a cow, you should tell me to sod off and eat something.

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 22/04/2013 16:33

don't eat breakfast as in toast, cereal or eggs and bacon. My apple was eaten at about 11am.

So perhaps that's what he thought. She only had an apple 2 hours ago...

anyway, am feeling human now after my chicken and onion sandwich.

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 22/04/2013 16:38

I don't eat breakfast or lunch, ever. I wouldn't think to comment on other people eating whenever that is.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 22/04/2013 16:43

... BUT... did you enjoy your sandwich, Hec? That's the main thing.

I would definitely point out your husband's inhalation of food proclivities if he made you feel bad for wanting to eat. That's really rude.

ChaoticTranquility · 22/04/2013 16:46

I get irritable and stroppy when I get hungry.

Oh, btw, if you work adhoc for his company then you're a consultant not his employee

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 22/04/2013 16:59

oh yes. Chicken and red onion. Lovely.

you remembered. Yes, I don't think someone who has the manners of a pig has any business commenting on MY eating habits!

I'm general dogsbody, chaotic, that's what I am

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Emilythornesbff · 23/04/2013 03:49

By dh reckons that at work men's desks te filled with stationary and women's ith snacks
inwill often mention lunch (I'm on mat leave and he works from home - whole other thread ) and he'll say that he never bothers with it, like it's a bit weird that I need to eat more than once a week.
He often says this though while helping himself to a large handful f biscuits, then later when he's eating his fourth helping of dinner will remark that he's had nothing to eat all day!! (breakfast doesn't count apparently.

Yanbu

CheerfulYank · 23/04/2013 04:02

My DS will happily not eat til 10 or 11. I have to basically force him to have a few bite of anything in the morning before school. Some people are just different with hunger.

YANBU though, lunch is normal!

blackcurrants · 23/04/2013 04:12

Dh is like you about breakfast, hec, whereas I wake up ravenous and have to have protein, masses of it. Had cold chicken, cucumber, and raw carrots for breakfast this morning, it was bloody lovely. I'd have a steak if I could.

Lunch is also nice, but I am never as hungry as when I wake up. Of course, this could be because I'm up all night breastfeeding the heifery baby...

raisah · 23/04/2013 04:14

Your dh doesnt have a very healthy attitude to eating. Gorging all that food once a day might do more harm than good. Like everyone has said, little and often.

Try to swap atleast one of your 3 coffees for food such as cereal to supplement the apple. Caffeine suppresses hunger and prevents you from feeling hungry.

Does your dh drink lits of coffee throughout the day? Thats maybe why he doesnt feel hungry.

Toadinthehole · 23/04/2013 07:03

I'm sure it's not illegal to require employees to make or buy their own lunch.

I normally eat mine at about 11 or earlier without a shred of self-conscience.

Callycat · 23/04/2013 12:37

I've got a relative like this. When I stay with them we eat lunch at, say, 1pm. At around 7 pm I will make polite inquiries about dinner plans, and they'll (invariably) say "What?! You're hungry AGAIN?" I have to remind them that us normals do eat more than once a day.

Or give up and go to the corner shop.

5Foot5 · 23/04/2013 13:07

Seriously! Why do you even need to ask? Of course it's reasonable and normal to want lunch when all you have had is one measly apple!

Your DH is the weird one not you.

Can you pack yourself something to take in?

ExitPursuedByABear · 23/04/2013 13:10

My fecking brother is like this. He lives abroad, and when we stay with him he looks at us as if we have three heads when we suggest eating. He believes that you can't drink and eat once you get past a certain age. He is right of course, as evidenced by his trimness and my Tonganess, but sometimes food is the only thing that will do.

IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 23/04/2013 13:34

Is that the co ops chicken and red onion sandwich? Is bloody delicious!

And your dh is absolutely right...infnct one apple should be enough to sustain a family of four for at least a day...greedy mcgreedyson

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 23/04/2013 16:09

yes. and yup, I am a piggie.

seriously 5foot, I know. as I said in my op that I can't believe I'm asking, but it was like I'd slipped into some weird alternate universe or something from his reaction. It was a real - what the holy hell - moment!

Plus I was hungry. And I am cranky, mardy and unreasonable when hungry. Plus over sensitive.

Anyway, it's today's chip wrapper. Today's problem is that he took the day off to do some decorating and he smashed the wall unit to bits!

I've warned and warned and warned him to not shove it round because it's in two parts, but would he listen? noooooo, I am just the negative, hysterical, worrier. Well. I enjoyed my I Told You So dance very much.

Yes, he does drink loads of coffee. In what we call his 'bucket'. Which is a mug that holds about a pint and a half!

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ParsleyTheLioness · 24/04/2013 19:26

Is G a big giant who doesn't know his own strength? Have you got the stuff sorted from your unit? Lol at his bucket...:)

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