to think he should just change the nappy.

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So I have a 6 month old. In all that time dh has never taken the initiative and changed a nappy. Even immediately post section I had to ask him. On the whole I have got on with it as I don't want to seem a nag. Anyway sunday morning dd was in the bed with me (cosleep some of the time). She had done a leaky poo which needed changing iimmediately. Before noticing I had mentioned that my back was killing me. It does 1st thing most mornings. I than moved dd and noticed the poo. So I commented on the fact she was dirty.
Dh didn't offer to change her so I had to ask him.

Should read change the nappy without me having to ask.

Yes, he should change nappies, give her baths, take her out for a walk etc. of course he should. She's his child too, and he is as responsible for her well-being as you are.

Presumably he doesn't do any chores either?

YANBU he should just change the nappy, without being told/asked or even pointing it out to him.

I was On my own from DS was born and frankly anyone of my wider family and even some friends would have changed a nappy - expecting the child's PARENT to do it is perfectly reasonable.

YANBU. My DP offered to pay me to do it the other day...

Of course YANBU! She is his child too, sod worrying about nagging, kick him up the arse! Tell him to stop being such a cop out and start being a parent.

He does do some chores but not enough really. Seems to think most of it is my job as a sahm. Ie will cook and very occassionally load dishwasher. Also does diy and garden but that's it. Have 2 older ds's too.

I am very sad for you that you feel like getting your husband to look after his daughter (and also by extension you) is 'nagging' :(

Maybe nagging wrong word.

Of course he should do it. I would state that from now on you are taking turns. You will still end up doing more of them as a sahm but that way he will do some and it's hard to argue that it's unfair to take turns when he gets home or at weekends.

Yanbu but have just realised DS is 19 months and I still have to ask DH to change the nappy! He just doesn't register it (tho he does all the houseworkand a lot of the cooking)

I left DS with DH for the weekend once and DS got D&V so dh needed no prompting for the nappy

Parenting is a team effort. You can't pick and choose when to do it, tell him to buck up his ideas.

Obviously YANBU.

That's shocking. As I bf dh agreed that all nappy changes and baths would be his responsibility because I would be constant provide of milk. Occasionally I prompt that he hadn't has his bum changed for a while or that it smells pooey, but that's rare.

Ds likes to time his poos for just after dh goes to work...