AIBU?
Should MOH's step up and plan hen do's?
hairtearing · 22/04/2013 10:45
That really, I'd feel far too cheeky to ask mine to do it, but the expectation makes me feel like if I organise my own I'm a sad case 
Whats the consensus?
AIBU to worry about who plans my hen do?
smartdoodle · 22/04/2013 16:03
I'm currently organizing my best mates. I'm moh for her and she did mine a couple of years ago.
However I think the best way to do it is have the bride involved as well. I've drawn up a big list of ideas and then went and had a chat with her to see what she thought, she's picked out what she likes and then I'll go arrange it and make it happen.
She gets input on who to invite etc but I'll send the invites and what not. The only thing she won't be involved in is the goody bags as I'd like them to be a nice suprise. We're having a spa type hen do with a night out so the goody bags will be packed with stuff like eye masks and spa slippers soaps etc. Ebay is a god send for stuff like that!!!
OhTheConfusion · 22/04/2013 16:12
I was MOH a few years ago. I offered to book the hen (only a day, not a weekend). I (along with the bridesmaids) booked a spa day for the bride, bridesmaids, mother of the bride and a few friends. This is what the bride said she fancied. I organised that we would have 2 treatments in the morning, a light lunch, then hair and make up in the afternoon. I then booked a meal in a top hotel with cocktail making class and treats for the bride... including a surprise suite for us all to get ready in.
2 weeks before the bride called to say she didn't really fancy the menu at night... the menu was vast... so she had cancelled it and booked the local chinese instead. They could only take us at 6.30pm so no time for spa and to get back and changed . The hen was terrible and I felt like I should keep telling everyone I didn't organise it!!!
MyNameIsInigoMontoya · 22/04/2013 22:31
Do whatever works best for you, surely? Though if you want to make sure you'll like it, it's probably best to at least have some input yourself.
I organized mine pretty much (twas a very small one though!), though the others did put together a few fun surprises.
I am soon going to be MoH for someone else, but she already had some ideas of what she'd like to do so has done most of the "big" organizing herself too. Also, I'm the only hen with children and the only one that's living at the other end of the country from all the others (who all know each other too). So the others are getting together to do some planning along with the bride, and I'm not having to do very much except giving a few opinions on things (and also hoping to do a few nice/fun surprises too). Makes sense really, as I'm always flat out with work/kids etc and too far away so it would be quite hard for me to do much more, whereas I think they're quite enjoying meeting up in the pub to make plans!
hairtearing · 23/04/2013 10:22
I don't mind either way tbh, aslong as its good its just my MOH has shown no real initiative or interest and coupled with the expectation of 'your MOH should do it!' I feel perhaps the lack of interest is a bit 
But I'd feel way to cheeky to give a verbal kick up the bum.
bugsyburge · 23/04/2013 11:41
I did my own too.... I have pockets of friends so although everyone knew of the other people, they didn't know them well so I thought it easier to organise my own....worked well I think.... they each surprised me with token gestures throughout the weekend which was lovely 
LippiPongstocking · 23/04/2013 16:49
Just say something like: "Would you like to arrange my hen party, I'd be honoured if you did" or something similar.
I was very lucky, I had two good friends volunteer to arrange mine, so I just gave them a list of email addresses, and left them to it. They wouldn't tell me what was going on till the day and it was great.
aldiwhore · 23/04/2013 16:51
My Mate of Honour (there's no way she would tolerate being called a maid) arranged one of mine, it wasn't my sort of thing so I arranged another myself.
It's just a party... don't overthink things, don't overcharge people, don't try to outdo any other hen night ever arranged. Do get your friends together and have a good night out.
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