To put my Dad and his partner in separate rooms when they come to stay with me?

[Alliwantisaroomsomewhere]

After all, they are not married and surely it is a case of "Not under MY roof!!".

DF is 79 and his partner is 78.

AIBU?

[LatteLady]

Get the basics right, you will need to sit between them on the sofa to set the tone.

If possible one should be upstairs and the other downstairs, try to put the one with the dodgy hip downstairs, this will dissuade them from getting together late at night.

You may need to have the "chat" with them... or maybe your DH can talk to your dad about stepping up to his responsibilities. Now if you are allowing them to stay, have you thought about ringing her children, they need to know too.

[IneedAyoniNickname]

Op are you my mum? Oh no, you can't be as grandad is older than your dad.

However she had a rule that once we had left home and moved in with a partner, wet could share a room when we stayed over. Until then it didn't happen.

Grandad doesn't live with his dp, and I did ask my mum if she enforced the rule on them. She said she didn't think either of them would want to sleep in the bunk bed

[ComposHat]

cmon at nearly 80, the only thing he is going to get up five times a night is to go and have a piss.

[Alliwantisaroomsomewhere]

Bubblesinthesky, I kid you not: when my Dad and his partner moved, I helped them sort a few things out, including making their bed. Partner says she was not too fussed about the mattress cover because "it is not as if we are trying for babies".

Composhat: I bloody well hope so.