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AIBU?

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Original poster

Was I unreasonable to inform DH...

18 replies

LadyFlumpalot · 20/04/2013 08:36

In the middle of a night time hour long temper tantrum as thrown by our 2.4 year old, that it was NOT an appropriate time for him to tell me how HIS MOTHER would have handled it...

Apparently I was being unreasonable.

I was not rude, I was not nasty, I merely hissed "I do not need to be told, right now, how your mother brought you up. Your mother is not me. Not is she here, awake at THREE SODDING AM."

Was this unreasonable of me?

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pictish · 20/04/2013 08:37

Maybe a little? Wink

DevonCiderPunk · 20/04/2013 08:38

YANBU. Unsolicited advice is rarely welcome. At 3am during a toddler tantrum, it's about as welcome as a plutonium flapjack.

FancyPuffin · 20/04/2013 08:38

Hells no Shock

At 3am I would have suggested his mother sprout wings and fly up my arse.

NewAtThisMalarky · 20/04/2013 08:39

Oh god no. If he wants to deal with it the way his mother would, leave him to it.

TheYoniKeeper · 20/04/2013 08:39

I'd have let him handle it, if he knows better Wink

lecce · 20/04/2013 08:39

YANBU. Why did dh not send you back to bed so he could take over and deal with it in the way his mother would have?

AcrylicPlexiglass · 20/04/2013 08:40

Yes. You should have said "Superb. I will go back to bed while you put her wonderful principles into practice. Night night."

StayAwayFromTheEdge · 20/04/2013 08:40

I would have told DH to deal with it his Mothers way as I was crawling back under the duvet Grin

DevonCiderPunk · 20/04/2013 08:41

Chuckling at the mental picture FancyPuffin has painted for us...

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LadyFlumpalot · 20/04/2013 08:41

In the (slightly grey) light of day I think I probably was a bit on reflection, especially as DH is up with DS and I'm still in bed! Wink

I think I probably owe him an apology and an explanation that at three am it is not a good idea to talk to me, let alone tell me how my MIL would do things better. Grin

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Original poster
LadyFlumpalot · 20/04/2013 08:43

FancyPuffin. Marry me?

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NewAtThisMalarky · 20/04/2013 08:44

Haha, love it!

Op: AIBU

most people: NO!

Op: yes I am

Original poster
LadyFlumpalot · 20/04/2013 08:46

Ahhhh NewAtThis, it's more that I can appreciate that he want being deliberately malicious, just a bit daft with his timings. I love my H immensely, but I do know he is a bit of a numpty.

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MummytoKatie · 20/04/2013 08:49

"Ah - excellent. Sounds like you have it all in hand then. Nighty night."

And go back to bed.

DevonCiderPunk · 20/04/2013 08:51

Ah that's good. Your DH was BU and maybe you didn't handle that as skilfully as you would have liked, but 3am tantrums do not lend themselves to smooth talk.

Forgiveness all round (and a big pot of hot coffee)

NewAtThisMalarky · 20/04/2013 08:51

I'm not criticising, I'm just really enjoying the fact that you are totally the opposite of some mnetters, that refuse to think they ABU despite a landslide of people saying they are.

You sound lovely!

EggsMichelle · 20/04/2013 08:51

FancyPuffin I will be using that when I get unsolicited advice (I can think of a particular family member)

YANBU

FancyPuffin · 20/04/2013 09:10
Grin
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