To wonder why people are obsessed with a new baby's weight?

[mylittlepuds]

Yes I understand it's important for a baby to gain weight as it's a great indicator of health, but why the weird judgement of non health professionals? "Ooh she's lost a bit I hear," said by aunts etc.

It's just irritating. Then you feel like you need to justify the stupid comment. "They do lose a bit in the first week," blah blah.

It's just weird! Why!

[DoJo]

Gold Top Milk just refers to the fat content though - nothing to do with the quality, just a slightly different way of saying that if your baby's turning into a massive chubber it's because they are consuming plenty of fat-filled milk. I certainly wasn't offended when people said it to me, and think it's probably (like a lot of these things) just that if it's already a sensitive subject then almost any mention can seem like bragging/judging/competing. There really is naff all to say about babies apart from that they eat, sleep and poo so if you don't want to talk about any of those things then you probably need to head people off before they bring it up.

[CalamityJ]

I hate the term "failure to thrive" it sounds so damning for both the new parent and the newborn.

[derektheladyhamster]

My ds 2 was huge. He was also quite boring, there wasn't a lot to say about him apart from 'yes he is big', I don't think it ever bothered me but it did mean I didn't have to ever get him weighed!

I'd rather talk about weight than how many dirty nappies I'd changed that day.

I also got the 'what are you feeding him? Gold top?' comments

[lightrain]

Just make something up if you're pissed off with people constantly asking OP. I understand what you mean - though I think it is just people asking for the sake of making conversation. Just say, 'he's putting on a good amount', or something like that, be nondescript. The old smile and nod, with as little actual info as possible.....

[mylittlepuds]

Calamity - I know it's awful isn't it?

Lightrain - good idea. Just yes, she's putting weight on.

[maddening]

There's only so much you can say about a newborn - whether it is sleeping, eating, smiling (or is it wind), whether they are alert and how much they weigh. Maybe at a push wet and dirty nappy frequency.