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rsvp's to party invitations - is this pretty typical??
SJaneS · 17/04/2013 11:06
Anyone advise on whether I'm being a bit paranoid here?! I sent out the invites to my daughters party yesterday which is for 2 1/2 weeks time (bank holiday weekend). It's at a leisure centre. So far, I've only had three yes's on the 20 odd invites I sent out.
Is this pretty typical? I don't think my daughter is unpopular and seems to get invited to quite a few parties herself. I was just expecting more of response, even if they are no's! One Mum did ask me this morning if it was a pool party (there is a pool at the centre although it isn't a pool party) but the invites I sent out just said 5th birthday party and surely people would expect me to state 'pool party' if that had been the case?
I suspect I'm being deeply neurotic here but my Daughter is v excited about this and its her first party!
aldiwhore · 17/04/2013 11:09
Unfortunately it's very common to receive very few replies.
I've stopped being angry about it. I now ring everyone invited a week before, and if I've not heard from them I text them and tell them that as I've not heard from them I assume they won't be coming.
It's a hassle.
Both my kids have had the 'party experience' now, so this year we're using that party cash to take them away for the weekend.
Tailtwister · 17/04/2013 11:14
It's only been 1 day since the invitations went out. I would say to expect the majority over the 4 days, once people have had a chance to check their diaries. I usually chase up any stragglers 5 or 6 days before the party stating that I need to be sure of the final numbers by say, 3 days before. I've never had anyone not respond after a reminder.
Don't worry OP, it's early days!
)MissLurkalot · 17/04/2013 11:32
You've done well to get 3 responses in less than 24 hrs.
Give them time.
You won't get responses from everyone I'm afraid,
And, don't forget, as it's a bank holiday weekend, people will need to see what their plans are that weekend. Eg. They might need to speak to other family members about going away... They' probably don't know what they're doing that weekend.
So, give them time. Stop flapping. It'll be fine
Pandemoniaa · 17/04/2013 11:35
You've done incredibly well to get three responses already. I'd assumed, from not reading your post properly, that these invitations had been out for ages. So yes, don't be worrying too much right now. However, I would say that you need to be prepared for people doing other stuff on a bank holiday weekend. Which means you may not get as many acceptances.
Picturesinthefirelight · 17/04/2013 11:52
Family on holiday, I'm working and she has show rehearsals that weekend too.
I needed to check first.
However I did send an immediate text to a mum arranging her ds party on the b/h Monday as she wanted to find out if ds was free before booking the date.
NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 17/04/2013 12:02
Normal...you can expect responses to trickle in over the coming 2 weeks and some wont respond till the day before. Others wont respond at all but will still turn up!
People are rude and ignorant but it seems to be par for the course! I now prepare for as many as I have invited...then i am not short of bags when they all turn up...even those who didn't RSVP!
SJaneS · 17/04/2013 12:27
Again, thanks ladies, just wanted a sense check if I was being a bit idiotic to have expected more of a response - am pleased to hear I am! Will calm down...not sure about chasing people who've not replied though - to me it seems another way of saying no but without the manners to say it??!
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