To have ended a friendship because her DS his hit my DS & DD?

[airyfairy1978]

I've struggled with this one for a couple of weeks. Friend's DS hit my DS deliberately & in temper-my DS was simply in the wrong place at the wrong time. These things happen don't they? Children get all kinds of knocks blah blah blah. This wasn't the first time though & he has also hit my DD unprovoked previously. There's no redress, no chastisement & no consequences for the child, which further disrespects my children. Also, is it not a parent's job to help our kids to develop a conscience through helping them to understand the impact of their actions? My (ex) friend hust looked embarrassed. I'm sure she didn't know what to do but that's not good enough for my DCs
I do not condone violence at all. My DS & DD are gentle characters who have never had to defend themselves against violence or aggression. In some way this perhaps makes them targets for kids with more aggressive tendancies, which makes me sad, but it's who they are, they're not in the wrong qnd should not need to change.
My friend took offence to my withdrawing contact beteeen the children. Am I overreacting? Probably.

I know airy, I was quite shocked, particularly when she said he is always at the baby and that baby will have to learn to put up with it as its what siblings do!

I found it very awkaward to confront her about her DS's behaviour but had to for the sake of my children. I told myself that if she reacted badly then I shouldn't really be friends with someone who has such different rules on parenting as me.