Aibu to think its bloody arrogant to not RSVP?

[M0naLisa]

I sent out invitations to family members and some friends for DS3 Christening.
I've got 1 RSVP out of all of them.
(Not including mum, dad, FIL etc) but my cousins haven't let me know and neither have main friends.

Aibu to think its bloody arrogant. And wibu to not cater for them.;-)

Tell the church and caterers there will be 70, because there will be either way due to your B list.

On 1 May send a nice email or text to anyone who hasn't responded saying not sure whether they didn't realise, and you know August is a long way off but you needed RSVPs by end April. Could they please confirm by 7 May whether they'll be coming otherwise you'll have to assume they are not.

Job done. Absolutely no need for stress.

Yes reply by 30th April (I know it's not 30th but when I receive an invite I RSVP straight away)

But it's hard to know in April what you'll be doing in August. Some people will be waiting to hear if they can get time off work to book holidays etc, so may not be able to reply straight away.

Change the date to a time not in the middle of holidays e.g. September or October?

August is a horrible time to RSVP for something in advance. It's the school holidays and people are probably not sure whether they will get away for holidays, etc.

I'd be annoyed at having to respond to a christening invite this far in advance. Why would you ever settle for a caterer that needed such advance notice of numbers?! General numbers, yes, but not specific!!!!

You might yet get some replies so chill out until the month end! If you haven't heard by then you can either contact them and ask if they are coming, or just make a judgement/guesstimate about numbers. unless it is a sit down formal meal (like a wedding) then the catering can be estimated surely?

The caterers are being very precious (talking crap?) about their time frames, they won't even put their food order into their suppliers until about two weeks before and will be able to deal with amendments right until delivery the week of your event.

I think people are much more casual about a Christening, if it were a wedding then I can understand your position more. I am arranging our babies Christening and haven't even asked for an RSVP.

So you set a deadline of 30th April for an event that isn't happening until August and you think they are being unreasonable because you haven't heard from them yet?

The caterers are pulling your leg. I have organised many large scale events and the final deadline for numbers is always about 48 hours before unless they are buying in food now for August.

The church is the church - presumably you are having the child christened in the church you attend, so the numbers aren't going to change that. It will either be full or not.

YABU

There is still quite a bit of time to go before the deadline. And I think it would have been better to have chosen a date not in the holidays. Maybe people might plan a late holiday and don't want to confirm they are free. It seems a lot of planning ahead for just a christening.

Relax, there's 2 weeks to your deadline-have to agree though that I couldn't possibly say I could do a date in August if asked now...