AIBU to not celebrate my 40th?

[Shellywelly1973]

I will be 40 in September. Im indifferent to my age, i really don't care.

I was pregnant but had a miscarriage. The baby would have been due just before my birthday so i had been using that as an excuse not to hold a party or anything else in all honesty!

I hate being the centre of attention. I don't drink or socialise much normally so parties & nights out are not my sort of thing. I don't have many close friends.

The problem is my dc 23 &21, are determined i should have a party. They mean well. Am i just being a miserable old bag&should have a party for the dc sakes?

Any suggestions for a better way to celebrate, gratefully recieved!

Completely understandable why you want to ignore your birthday. As others have suggested, why not have a quiet family meal/ day out or weekend away. It seems your dc are keen to make it special for you even more because of your loss. Sit back and allow them to fuss over you.

Very sorry for your loss, it must be very hard.

I didn't do anything special for my 40th, well except go to Wetherspoons for breakfast! I don't go 'out' any more, I've lost the urge for pubbing and clubbing. Plus DD is only 8 so babysitters etc are a pain in the arse.

We were at our caravan so it was treated like any other birthday really - we went out for dinner, but that's nothing unusual when we are there. I have friends whose husbands really pushed the boat out for them, trips to London, New York etc or big parties but I was happier just in my little bubble with DD and DH. I think I was probably in bed by 10!