about partner booking a holiday?

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So we are still a fairly newish couple - been together since the end of January. We were talking about taking our first holiday together and where we'd like to go etc.

Then yesterday he surprises me by booking something.

Whilst I think this is a lovely gesture, it would have been nice to have some input into where we're going on our first ever holiday.

Or am I just being unreasonable?

Extremely rude Gogo

I was wondering if I was being unreasonable because I was a little put out that he booked it without asking me.

And there did that make me ungrateful.

Reading the replies I realised I was and should just be happy.

There's seriously no need to be so rude and dismissive.

id be excited!! How romantic

is. he. paying. or. do. you. have. to. go. halves.??

is it a difficult question?? lol!!!

I'd see at as a nice surprise tbh, especially as you already live together...Seems like you're taking issue with it for the sake of it-not all men are controlling manipulative wankers you know

No, you shouldn't 'have' to feel anything OP. Your initial reaction to something is usually the right one - so if it didn't feel right that he'd gone ahead and booked something then that is how you feel.

Did he not even text you from the travel agents and say "New, there is a fantastic deal here, what do you think?" Or is it such a wonderful, fabulous surprise of a place that you are just jumping for joy at the prospect of going there?

I think we need more info. Is it somewhere he knew you wanted to go? Is it his treat. Where are you going etc.

I'd be similarly conflicted OP. It's something I think I'd like as a concept (swept away on a nice romantic break without any of the hassle) but in reality I suspect I would prefer to have some input.

Yep, would definitely depend on the thought process behind it. If it was a place that I'd always wanted to go, or if it had a special meaning for me, something like that, then I'd be thrilled with it (I've been married for too long, this would never happen in reality!). If it was just a bog standard fortnight in Lanzarote (nice as that is) then I'd be a bit less thrilled.

I pretend that DH has a choice when really I pick every thing but when he took me away for surprise holiday it was ....well a nice surprise as he payed for the lot If he's paying enjoy, but if not id be a bit miffed! My taste is far superior to DH

If he is paying as a treat then yabu.

If you are expected to pay then yanbu

Are you having to pay your share?

I think the OP just wanted a bit of a stealth boast, I don't think she's coming back

It's just sooooo exasperating when an OP willfully and repeatedly ignores the same key questions, without which, any response is meaningless

I thought the whole booking of a surprise trip was considered romantic?

"pack a bag darling, I'm taking you to paris" sort of thing? I didn't realise it could be considered controlling or anything.

Jez he's booked a holiday and your being told it a flag

The payment expectations are key. And not liking surprises is okay but, if you are like that, it's best to be with someone who doesn't go in for them. L

If you're expected to pay then he's unreasonable. If it's on him then lovely.

But if we're never going to know either way then I second gogo with most pointless AIBU ever

And "unreasonable" isn't the thing. It sounds to me as if you didn't really like it and you are trying to understand why.

10 minutes of my life I'll never get back :(

Seriously, you moved in with a bloke you only met a month before and you're uncomfortable about him booking a suprise holiday for you? I think your're priorities may be a bit muddled.

your, not bloomin you're fgs.

I'm with gogo.

But I feel that I need to know if the OP is expected to pay and where they are going?

4 weeks??

i take it you don't have children OP?