To think my neighbour is a right pain!

[Lj8893]

Our flat is a house converted into two flats, upstairs and downstairs with a communal corridor and main front door.
We live downstairs and our neighbour upstairs is a 71 very eccentric (and sometimes quite difficult) lady.
She is very noisy, constantly banging around and moving furniture (that's what it sounds like anyway) and has several times accused us of things like hacking into her computer and tapping into her electricity supply!!! Anyway those things eventually culminated in a heated discussion where she proceeded to call me ignorant and uneducated but eventually she realised she was being unreasonable.

The latest thing is junk mail coming through the main front door, duplicated as its clear it is two flats.

We pick ours up as often as we can and dispose of it but don't pick the duplicated items up as clearly they are meant for her and so not our place to dispose of them.

They have been piling up (neatly and doesn't bother us) and this morning on my day off I heard her in the corridor shout "I shouldn't have to tell adults this but please remove the trash from the corridor" I then later looked in the corridor and she has moved the pile right in front of our private flat door!

AIBU that out of principal there is no way I want to dispose of that pile now, it won't make any extra work for me but I am shocked at her behaviour!

I don't think a sign would stop the junk mail because Royal Mail are under an obligation (i.e. they have been paid) to deliver it but it may prevent casual 'leafleteers' pushing their rubbish on you (but somehow I doubt it).

gail yes it is an offence to throw away or open other peoples mail.

OP is there any way you can set up your own post box for your flat. I am sure you can buy ones that get put on the wall.

eggs op on

It is not an offence to open someone's mail or throw it away unless under specific circumstances. The Postal Service Act states: "A person commits an offence if, intending to act to a person's detriment and without reasonable excuse, he opens a postal packet which he knows or reasonably suspects has been incorrectly delivered to him." So, whilst I wouldn't throw away any unaddressed mail just because it's not your place to, it's not necessarily an offence unless you are doing it for nefarious reasons.

I don't get RM junk mail any longer - I have the "no junk mail" sign on my letter box.

The only stuff I get is from estate agents, and having firmly told one that I didn't want his junk mail, was informed that it wasn't junk but information.

My postman informed me the other day that if I didn't want junk mail (in reality he doesn't want to walk up all the steps to my door to deliver shite, don't blame him) then I need to go online to royal mail and the option out of junk is well hidden at bottom of screen. He said he is not supposed to tell me this as it is against company policy - but there you go. Ask the lady upstairs if she would like you to opt out for her next time you are hacked into her computer using her electricity?

Can you get a seperate post box for your post and put it outside so everything that comes in the door is hers?

She sounds like a grumpy cunt.

sorry if its been said and I'm not being age-ist but it sounds a little like she's suffering from early dementia! the accusations of hacking and using her electricity supply and the late night furniture moving all sound like dh's late DGM who had vascular dementia...the pg rant cld have been a more lucid but rude moment, the problem now is what to do....just my opinion x

What cjbk1 said.

It certainly sounds a possibility. Does she have family you can speak to?

Dispose of the junk mail every so often. That's what most people do in shared hallways I think if it isn't picked up. And just ignore her or say a cheery "hello" and don't get derailed into conversations with her. Problems solved. Complain to her when she is noisy though, by note through the door if necessary, don't let her bully you!

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