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To want to yank the earphones out of the ears of every inconsiderate bastard on the bus that makes me listen to their music?

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Scottishtanguera · 11/04/2013 15:06

Am I the only one that still finds this infuriating?
I know talking on a mobile is considered rude but judging by the amount of people with the tinny sound of music coming from their ears on public transport this is ok now, is it??

I always do an exaggerated "what's that noise? Oh, it's your music!" kind of look in any offenders direction but I have never, ever known anyone to turn it down. Sometimes I can literally hear the lyrics, how the fuck can they not know its too bloody loud?!Angry

I know it shouldn't bother me but years of putting up with it has taken its toll...
Hence the title of this thread-in my head I've done it many times.

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picnicbasketcase · 11/04/2013 15:11

Wave to get their attention, then treat them to a verse or two of a loud song of your choosing. When they inevitably look at you like you're loopy, just say 'Oh sorry, I thought since you're making me listen to your music, it would be my turn now'.


somebloke123 · 11/04/2013 15:11

Agree completely.

It's always the same piece of music too. The one that goes

Tshsh tsh, ti Tshsh tsh, ti Tshsh tsh, ti Tshsh tsh

and so on ad infinitum.


HandMini · 11/04/2013 15:11

Tap them on the shoulder and tell them. I do it on the tube and only once or twice have I been threatened with violence!


TerrariaMum · 11/04/2013 15:16

You know what's even worse? When they don't even bother to use headphones but play it on their mobiles v. loudly.

And somebloke is right. It is always the same song.


angelos02 · 11/04/2013 15:19

They are setting themselves up for tinnitus when they get older.


harleyd · 11/04/2013 15:22

I listen to music because I don't want to hear other people's conversations
If it bothers you that much ask them to turn it down a little


bigkidsdidit · 11/04/2013 15:24

I once sat next to a man on teh tube who played Rude Boy by Rihanna for the ENTIRE 45 minute journey, over and over and over again Angry

I hate it. I hope it will die out as headphones get better.


Ooopsadaisy · 11/04/2013 15:33

I am sitting in a room with my children.

Both are wired up to their techno-toys.

I have Taylor Swift on my left with DD (14) and (I think) Bastille on my right with DS (16).

I am left humming a little tune to myself.


worldgonecrazy · 11/04/2013 15:36

If you're sat next to them, just start drumming along/singing/miming along to the song they're listening to. They should soon get the hint.


TigerSwallowtail · 11/04/2013 15:38

Yanbu, when I've got headphones in I always double check that nobody else can hear it, I'd be mortified if I was subjecting everyone around me to tinny earphone music.

I always do an exaggerated "what's that noise? Oh, it's your music!" kind of look in any offenders direction but I have never, ever known anyone to turn it down.

They probably can't hear you if their music is up so loud :o


Scottishtanguera · 11/04/2013 15:39

I do listen to music on my own headphones too, but never at a volume that will irritate others.
Sometimes it's because of someone like that (usually I shut my book huffily and stuff into my bag - childish, I know and it's not like they're going to hear it anyway) - only to find I can still hear their music over mine!

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 11/04/2013 15:49

i do this, not on the bus though just while walking, so i flit past and im gone.


EldritchCleavage · 11/04/2013 15:51

Just ask. I have never had anyone refuse to turn it down when I've asked them. Oh, and if it's me, just ask. I would be mortified and turn the volume down immediately.

YABU to assume that people will know your dirty look is about their music being too loud. Public transport is ALL dirty looks these days-how are people to know why you're scowling unless you tell them?


wineoclocktimeyet · 11/04/2013 15:53

Console yourself with the fact they will have tinnitus and lose their hearing within the next 20 years


Scottishtanguera · 11/04/2013 15:57

I dunno Eldridge, I've mastered it now:
Look round, frowning, confused.
"Spot" offender.
Make eye contact.
Look pointedly at phone/iPod,etc.
Look back at offender.
Repeat the above 2 until they look uncomfortable and and refuse to meet my eye.

They know, believe me. Grin

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EldritchCleavage · 11/04/2013 16:00

Yeah, but by then you've annoyed them, so they don't turn it down. Just ask! But do it sweetly.


infamouspoo · 11/04/2013 16:07

yanbu. Ripping their heads seems fair


TigerSwallowtail · 11/04/2013 17:42

wineoclock what about using headphones at a low volume? My 6 year old son needs to use headphones with his iPod to keep him calm if we're out as he has AS but I always make sure the volume is low.


marjproops · 11/04/2013 17:50

YYYYYYYY. me too. and as someone said always the tsh tsh tsh stuff.

i just think 'what a shame, so young and yet so deaf'.

ONCE and only once, after about 5 people asked politley but firmly asked a dude to turn his '''music''' down did i signal him, he took offending ''personal'' headphones off (these people dont know waht personal means) and said (V rare of me to be bold) thank you SO much for being so thoughtful and sharing that wonderful sound with us. he got embarrassed and got off next stop. but not before the standard finger gesture and the obligatory F off parting shot.


sensesworkingovertime · 11/04/2013 19:35

Scottish, you speak wisely, so you are definitely not BU, I will yank along with you, infact it's not the only thing I'd like to yank...or squeeze.

Only this evening on bus some young bloke got on, sat next to me and had an awful din blaring out of his ithingymijiggy. It's always the same, you're trying to have a bit of piece, nod off (as I was) and some dope thinks you want to listen to the same trash as them. I question the word 'music' though, one I heard recently actually sounded like the racket you hear when you pass an amusement arcade, not a tune.


Chottie · 11/04/2013 20:37

It's even worse when they are eating a smelly takeaway at the same time!


marjproops · 11/04/2013 20:40

cousin of mine is almost stone deaf now cos of doing that in her younger days and warns people now. do they care a fig? nope.

i say bring back bus conductors, all this health and safety stuff and no one thinks that drivers have more than enough to do and they cant leave their seat and tell people to turn it down/off, get off the bus/stop dinging the bell/stop your precious tarquin dinging the bell/get your feet/bag off the seat and let someone sit there/this is a diabled/pram section.....

i HATE public transport.


MsBella · 11/04/2013 20:46

Its the headphones fault that's all
Keep a supply of very expensive high quality headphones that don't leak sound with you to hand out, it will solve this problem


wineoclocktimeyet · 11/04/2013 21:23

Tiger - low is better and those that go over the ears are better than those that go directly into the ears but none are best of all Smile

The problem is that the hair cells in the ears that allow you to hear dont regenerate (the only cells that dont) so if they are damaged, thats it for ever.

Loud noise is a major cause of damage and also long periods of sustained sound. The problem with headphones is that they channel the sound directly into the ear, its not 'diluted' like outside world sound is.

I know I am paranoid about damage - its a case of too much knowledge!


featherbag · 11/04/2013 21:36

When I was 16 and en route to college, the us driver once stopped the bus to shout at me to turn my music down - I was sitting on the very back seat, it's no wonder I'm hard of hearing now! In my defence, these were the days before decent headphones. I use in-ear ones now, safe in the knowledge I'm not inflicting Pendulum on anyone else at 7.30am! If I don't listen to my own music I find myself fantasising about getting my nail scissors out and snipping the headphone wires of the worst offenders!

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