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AIBU to think that posters who ask for advice and then don't return to the thread are rude time-wasters?

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DaemonPantalaemon · 11/04/2013 05:28

This is a pet peeve of mine. Why would you ask for advice and then not return to the thread? Particularly if the original post has a lot of gaps, and people ask for more information? What is the point of such threads? I have been following a poster who has made 6 (6!) separate threads about the same work-related issue, and she never comes back, or acknowledges the advice, or answers the questions. Then she starts a new thread. On the same issue, just with a different title.

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Hassled · 11/04/2013 10:09

I don't blame people for not returning to AIBU threads - or sometimes you wonder if they meant to post so much revealing info and then get cold feet about it all so run away. Fair enough, really.

What winds me up though is the specific requests for information ones - does anyone know a good locksmith in Wolverhampton, or where can I buy a hexagonal cake tin - that sort of thing, and then nothing. It takes seconds to post "many thanks for your help".

SinisterBuggyMonth · 11/04/2013 10:32

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NirvanaSmellsLikeTeenMother · 11/04/2013 11:39

YABU, people can do what they want.

I've done it before because RL has got in the way, or when I've started a thread, forgotten about it and then come back on and it's died so there's no point in replying. I try not to do it as much now but sometimes it just slips my mind.
I also sometimes post on a thread someone else has started and then not fone back again.

I don't really think it's a big deal, it's an internet forum after all.

I dont like it when someone has posted a personal or upsetting thread and people just post on it with a '.' or 'just marking my place' or the frequently used faux concern of 'How are you OP?'

I think it all depends on what kind of thread it is and also the replies, but generally i dont think it's a big deal, or rude.

Feminine · 11/04/2013 11:45

Oh , to clarify.

I don't want thanks particularly.

I'm not nosy.

Just think it takes 2 secs to say "Thanks all"

I make sure I always do.

themaltesecat · 11/04/2013 12:21

I am inadvertently guilty of this, but these boards move FAST. If I have a lot of work on, it might be a fortnight before I return to Mumsnet. I'd feel like a numpty scrolling back seventeen pages and resurrecting my now long-dead thread just to bring the focus back to ME ME ME again.

moonabove · 11/04/2013 12:27

YABU and you sound needy.

scarletforya · 11/04/2013 12:27


Posters lives are not a soap opera for our entertainment. I hate people begging for updates under the guise of 'concern' when really it's just rubbernecking and ghoulish titillation.

Posters owe the readers here precisely nothing

DaemonPantalaemon · 11/04/2013 13:35

Jeez, this crowd IS tough:) Smiles:)

I am not needy at all, I am not a rubber-necker, nor do I consider Mumsnetter posters to be soap stars who exist for my entertainment.

As I said, it is a pet peeve, and like most peeves, not something that keeps me awake at night.

Thank you all for your posts, you have given me different takes, and I appreciate you all:) Smiles.

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