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To not want Dh to take this job.

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McNewPants2013 · 09/04/2013 18:58

DH job at the moment is permanent, I know how much he hates working there.

He has found another job but it via an agency.

I know with agency work before 13 weeks they may phone up and not require your services.

We have 2 children and huge debts so we cannot afford for either of us to be out of work.

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HoHoHoNoYouDont · 09/04/2013 19:00

YANBU especially as you have huge debts. I do feel sorry for him though as I have been in a job I hate and it's soul destroying. Is there anything he could change to make it bearable?


kinkyfuckery · 09/04/2013 19:01


He can't give up a permanent job for a temporary one. He has responsibilities.


Hassled · 09/04/2013 19:02

I think you're right but I do feel for him. I think he needs to just focus on finding a different permanent job.


oldraver · 09/04/2013 19:03

If he has a permanent job I would stick with it. OH has been on Agency work for a while now and on several occasions (including the recent Honda lay offs) he has been given very short notice, one employer two weeks before Christmas laid off all their agency workers


McNewPants2013 · 09/04/2013 19:05

If the job was permenant I would be fully supportive, I know he hates his job and I do feel for him but our children and keeping a roof over our heads are more important.

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catgirl1976 · 09/04/2013 19:05

YANBU - You need security and perm jobs are rare

But it is hard doing something you hate so I can understand where he's coming from, but in todays market you can't give up a permanent role for contract work


expatinscotland · 09/04/2013 19:06



catsmother · 09/04/2013 19:09

I hate my job too and would dearly love to be doing something else. I expect many others feel the same, though of course it also seems a bit crass to be complaining about being in work when so many aren't. Trouble is (stating the bleeding obvious) most of us who hate our jobs can't afford to take a pay cut as we are working for necessities rather than fripperies, and that's supposing we could actually find any new job at all.

It's an awful position to be in though - to feel, for example, stressed out, unable to sleep for worrying, working extra hours to accomplish what needs to be done but not getting paid for it (e.g. if you're technically self employed and working on a set contract), dreading each working day and so on. Sometimes, there really is nothing to be done to make a job more bearable and you have no choice but to trudge on. I've often heard people say your health is more important than your job - say, when contemplating a lower paid and less dreadful role - but if you're counting every last £ what choice do you really have ?

I feel very sorry for anyone in that position but I wouldn't take the risk of agency work vs a permanent position.


TiggyD · 09/04/2013 19:10

YABU depending how much he hates working there. Is there a chance of him becoming clinically depressed for example? Is he being bullied? Not an easy choice.


McNewPants2013 · 09/04/2013 19:15

I don't know tiggyD but I know 100% that he is not being bullied.

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catgirl1976 · 09/04/2013 19:56

I have to say, I have just had 7 weeks off work with depression and anxiety because I hate my job

Unfortuantly I have had to go back as there are no others and the sick pay is ony for 15 days a year (even though I've been there 8 years) and I can't live off SSP

So I do have a lot of sympathy for your DH. But also for you as security is important


McNewPants2013 · 09/04/2013 21:17

Hope you are feeling better Catgirl

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Snazzynewyear · 09/04/2013 21:22

It is awful to be in a job you hate but the job market is just too fragile at the moment to take many risks. Is there any chance he can retrain in the evenings or weekends to be able to look for other kinds of job? I feel sorry for him but it is a big risk to walk away from a permanent job in your position.

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