To Ask Parents Nicely to Say No to Their Children

[Chockyeggpants]

And mean it and enforce it?
Many thanks.

Depends what the question is.

Pick your battles.

Were the little charmers' parents even there?

at a guess in know what OP means. re my job i am in a position where i unintentionally regularly observe (worst offenders, middle classes) parents not saying no to their precious off spring for fear of a/them kicking off and embarassing them in public or b/think they look cool and laid back letting their kids do what the fuck they want.

to ask parents to say no to their children - YABU. Arbitrary is bad.

to ask parents to say no to their children sometimes - YANBU. Boundaries are important.

to ask parents to say no nicely to their children - which is how I read the title, because of the avoided split infinitive, YANBU. Why can some people only yell?

People seem to be deliberately misinterpreting the OP.

OP, YANBU.

Thought it might have something to do with that thread OP.

Didn't dare contribute after the first couple of posts in case I came across as smug. I am smug, but try to keep it to myself.

Forgot to add.

YANBU.

Am I the only person confused as to how the op posting this on here will help her dd?

And can someone help me out?

No idea,Honey.

I think it has something to do with being prepared to be an unpopular parent (saying no when necesaary) and hopefully bring up well behaved, well rounded human beings. Or something like that.

necessary

Sadly parents who think they look 'laid back and cool' just look lazy and uncaring to most people. OP I do know what you mean, was just being facetious as I know someone who is constantly yelling NO! and eye rolling - i.e not enforcing it. It just becomes background noise and the child actually ignores or laughs at her now because it means nothing.
Pick your battles, as someone else said.

Okaaaay. So basically we are speculating on what the op means, but the majority agree its to do with shit parenting?

In which case I'm out. I dye kids blue and threaten to drop them down gin bottles, so this I'd not the thread for me.

How do they respond, Honey? If my mother threatened to drop me into a gin bottle I'd be delighted

I said No at least 500 times today. Do I get a special award?

I prefer using positive techniques to teach my kids, the idea is that if they're doing something really dangerous and I say no they'll take it more seriously than if I was moaning no don't do that stop no no all the time at them which could also make them unhappy and anxious

Fireside has it bang on.
I was asking parents to step up and say no to their children instead of not wanting to upset them or make the children hate them. My teaching friends reckon that it's as if the parents are afraid of their children, and this lack of boundary setting has huge repercussions in schools.

Saying no makes your children unhappy and anxious??
WTAF.
How many more believe this??
It just goes to prove what my teaching friends are saying.

Well you could have said that in the op!

Weedy parents are bloody annoying.

Jollypurple .... My plan was to drink all the gin in the very big bottle then drop them in it. I started a thread about it. Oddly enough everyone was in firm support of my plan.

Well it made me unhappy and anxious never knowing if I was doing something wrong or not and I know of others too...

So many critical and judgy threads on MN at moment, it's grim

I'm pretty sure most parents aren't scared of their children... its just being positive instead of negetive...

'Youre doing that wrong, stop, no, bad, no etc etc" instead using positive parenting

I missed that one, Honey. I do remember the blue one though.

MN is supposed to be a place for parents to support each other, not give each other a bollocking constantly.