To think this is an inappropriate way to refer doctors/nurses/police

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just back from taking DC2 for vaccinations and the chap before me wandered out of the treatment room saying to his son "yeah nasty nurse". I've heard it lots before and also heard parents saying "if you don't stop doing xyz then that policeman over there will come and get you".
Is it just me who thinks that children should not be made to be afraid of police and be taught that they are there to do good, are approachable if you need help etc?
Similarly, yes vaccinations aren't pleasant but this does make the nurse "nasty" in any way

Dd asd throwing mealy down after meltdown due to lack of routine, In desecration I told her I will call the police that did not work

I tell my children that the police are there to keep us safe. So if they don't sit nicely the car seat the policeman might tell me off for not keeping them safe but not them.
I totally agree. I teach that dr, nurses, police are all there to look after us.

LouiseSmith - you seem to be confused.

It's not the police who " punish" people. It's the courts.

HTH

I hate this sort of thing. Painting the police etc. in a bad light just ensures children are scared to approach them.

Cannot bear parents who use others as a threat because they cannot manage their own children. When my sister's children misbehave she is always telling them that DH or I am going to punish them. It drives me mad to be painted as the nasty aunty. Parent your own bloody children and stop passing the buck.

Moomin - are you scary?? That is weird to use you!

My DS has spent a lot of time in and out of hospital he knows the doctors and nurses are there to help him. If he needs blood taking he knows it will hurt and that its needed the staff are fantastic about it and I would never blame it on them.

For young children the police need to be a safe place not someone they are scared will take them away. We saw a policeman in town today and DS said hi and had a little chat.

Maybe I am scary. I am certainly the only person who ever, ever tells them off, no matter how badly they are behaving. But DH is a right softie.
My sister is a crap parent though and her kids are absolute rabble. Sadly she is reaping the rewards of years of zero disciple.

YANBU

It's a bit like "well I'd let you, but Daddy says no" only worse.

so hang on it's despicable thing for me to say, yet it isn't for my dd to kick and hit me...mmm ok.
I'm not sure that comparing the intentions of you as a parent with those of your three year old is particularly fair - I'm sure that you know your daughter best and have managed her behaviour in a way that was appropriate for her, but this statement doesn't exactly help your position.

DD is terrified of doctors, more specifically GP's. DH has tried to tell her that they're there to make her better, it doesn't help much when her last visit to the GP made her very sick!

YANBU.

I try to be honest with my children, and that has included telling them that police would come if x/y/z happened. It hasn't frightened them as they know there are some behaviours that are unaccaptable (stealing, an adult hitting a child etc). However, I'd never use it as an empty threat so only when appropriate. I wouldn't describe nurses or drs as nasty in any situation as they are always acting with your childs best interests at heart.

YANBU. Parents do this to me all the time (I'm a GP):

"Don't to that or the lady will tell you off". Then they wonder why their DC won't co-operate when I need to examine them.

I used to just ignore it but now I come right out and say "no I won't - that's your Mummy's job"

Yanbu. Since starting school dd keeps telling me that Policemen are bad because they put you in jail . I've had to explain to her over and over again, that policeman protect good people like us from bad people and only put bad people in jail.

Dr Ranj helps in the doctor front, but dd has only met nice, fun doctors who look for "breakfast" in ears when she had a throat infection and I always "big up" doctors and nurses. I need to start doing it with policemen too I think.

I obviously mean policewomen too. Not just men.