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Original poster

to not like it when my friends fiance come to a group dinner?

12 replies

CharlMascara · 09/04/2013 00:03

Would say girls night but I know that term isn't really liked on here.

Arranged a dinner for Thursday night, there are 7 of us going - all women and my friend is bringing her fiance.

This always happens (even before they were engaged) and it just changed the dynamic of the whole night to be honest.

I don't mind when it's all couples, or some couples.

If my DH was going out with all his friends and none of their partners were going then I just wouldn't go.

Am I being unreasonable?

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issey6cats · 09/04/2013 00:08

yanbu a girls night is girls

AnyFucker · 09/04/2013 00:08

a token bloke rocks up on a girls night out (nothing wrong with that term, IMO, it's just a figure of speech)

why does he want to do that ?

is he a controlling, possessive or jealous type ?

is your friend ok ?

AgentZigzag · 09/04/2013 00:08

They probably are being unreasonable not to read the situation as there only being other women going so the bloke might make a difference, but then there's no way of telling your friend that without falling out with her.

Some might say there shouldn't be a difference just because it's a bloke, but I know what you mean and think it would.

ReluctantBeing · 09/04/2013 00:10

Make it clear that its a girlie one.

AgentZigzag · 09/04/2013 00:11

Are you all really scary and she forces her DP to come along as back up? Grin

squeakytoy · 09/04/2013 00:11

just tell her that its a girls night and he isnt invited..

AnyFucker · 09/04/2013 00:13

I really value my female friendships and the time spent with no bloke around waving his willy all the time

tell him to go and find some friends of his own...sad case, he is

AgentZigzag · 09/04/2013 00:14

Seriously though, how comfortable does he seem when he's there?

Is it really that they haven't read it as a womens only night and they genuinely both want a night out together?

Or is she making him come out because of whatever reason, like she thinks they should socialise more together or something?

Or he could be really needy and not like being on his own at home?

Dominodonkey · 09/04/2013 00:15

YANBU - my friend invited us out for her birthday, she actually used the expression 'girlie lunch' and another friend brought her dp, she couldn't even plead ignorance as she had asked my dp whether he was going and he had said no as it was for the girls. I was astonished at her cheek, he is a lovely bloke but it made for a strange dynamic.

AgentZigzag · 09/04/2013 00:17

'I really value my female friendships and the time spent with no bloke around waving his willy all the time'

Your friends have such interesting DPs Grin

My life is so flat in comparison Grin

AnyFucker · 09/04/2013 00:19

You know what I mean Grin

Although some of them do get their arses out after a few < sigh >

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CharlMascara · 09/04/2013 00:19

I was astonished at her cheek, he is a lovely bloke but it made for a strange dynamic.

Same here. He seems really nice, he's very shy so doesn't make much conversation.

I don't think he has many of his own friends. I think he's more of when he has a girlfriend he couldn't be bothered with his friends anymore.

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