AIBU?
To refuse to other kids to chicken pox
DixieD · 08/04/2013 20:14
Dd got chicken pox on Sat. Not too bad a dose to be fair. A good lot of spots but not causing her much bother. In good form if a little tired and grumpy.
i had met a friend and briefly on Friday so texted her just to let her know. She texted back to say she would bring her kids around early in the week so they could catch it. I thought she was joking so didn't reply.
I rang her this morning for something else and she asked again could they call over this evening. I said I wasn't really comfortable with it because I would feel bad if her kids got a really bad dose and I'd deliberately exposed them to it.
She was a bit 
but seemed to accept it. DH thinks I should have let her. IHO they are her kids and if she wants to take the risk it's up to her. WIBU?
Backtobedlam · 08/04/2013 20:28
I'd say its up to the other child's mum. Most children will get it at some time or another, and if they were mixing before the spots came out chances are the other child is incubating it anyway. The only time I'd say no is if my child was really under the weather with it and wouldn't want a friend round.
expatinscotland · 08/04/2013 20:29
'If DCs are otherwise healthy, surely getting it sooner is better than later. I was very relieved that my DCs had CP at preschool rather than at school.'
No, it isn't. Plenty of healthy children can develop complications. Imagine how the OP would feel if this woman's children did?
MyDarlingClementine · 08/04/2013 20:45
I think you were well within your rights to make sure your DC wasnt the source of this ladies DC pox.
If something did go wrong a) how would you feel and
b) what's to stop her saying " but you shouldn't have let us come round its your house"
I think people are v v ignorant when it comes to the pox.
I do know people who have had nasty complications! It does happen!
My own DD had a good dose but one that didn't affect her too much, but so what, I know a few others who have been v ill!
Hulababy · 08/04/2013 20:55
YANBU
You don't feel comfortable with the risk, it's your home - so you can say no.
And whilst most children go through chicken pox relatively easily and unscathed there are serious complications that occur. If one of her children got CP and had complications through exposure at your house, you would feel responsible.
I would never encourage a known risk of exposure to any potentially dangerous illness; well any illness full stop tbh.
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