Ok, I probably am. Being unreasonable, that is. At least a bit. But anyway, here goes.
My Son (14) has two best friends (twins) that he's been friends with since Reception. The problem is, myself and my Husband really don't like them... Our Son is very easily led (I know that sounds a bit "not my child", but really, he is.) And these two boys have got him into trouble at school, and out, on many an occasion. The teachers at their school don't have a good word to say about the twins and say that our Son would flourish much better away from their company.
In an ideal world, he wouldn't have anything to do with them, but I know that I have to accept that I can't stop him seeing them completely. For starters, I can't control what happens when they're at school. He's always asking me if they can come round to the house, and I always say no, as I just don't want them here, and he can see them at school and at the park and so on. The reasons I don't like them is that they are trouble at school, have no work ethic, just want to mess about, are sneaky and un-trustworthy and just aren't a good influence on my Son. Their parents don't seem bothered what they get up to. They let the twins mix with boys that are REALLY bad news - even my Son doesn't want to mix with some of these other boys. The twins seem to have no guidance at all.
Myself and my Husband have spoken to our Son at length about making other friendships, spending time with other friends, and he does have a couple of other friends that are nice boys, but never wants to spend much time with them, he just seems completely obsessed with these twins.
The real issue is the having them over to the house thing, as he's always asking and I always say no, as being perfectly honest, I just can't stand them. I feel a bit bad though, on one hand I think I have to relent to some extent and accept that they're his friends and he should be able to have them over, but on the other hand I feel that I should stick to my guns. My Son is old enough to see these boys, if that's what he chooses and won't take my advice, away from the house.
What would you do? Anyone in a similar situation? It really pisses me off and is causing many arguments at home.
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Justaregularcat · 08/04/2013 18:05
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