To be so annoyed?

[dancemom]

DD has a bit of a toxic friendship going on and received a text from toxic friend informing her that a mutual friend was at toxic friends house. Dd replied saying oh that's nice and then received a further text saying ha you aren't here and we are having the best time ever!
Dd is a bit hurt at the blatant rudeness but I'm fuming! Toxic friend is notoriously spoilt but to be that vile at 8 years old shocks me!
Tempted to call her mother and ask her to delete dd from toxic friends contacts!
Am I being PFB and its just girls being girls?

Take the phone/ipad out of it for a second.

A similar thing could have happened in the playground. 8 year olds are cruel no matter how they choose to express it.

No real advice OP, I am dreading mine getting to this age. I just wanted to make the point that its not all about the phone.

I've no idea how you raise it, depends on whether she has approachable parents.

Unfortunately friends one minute, rubbing face in leaving people out the next is not an uncommon primary girls form of bullying. Our worst offenders mother was the sort who thought her DD could do no wrong.

Great pity they didn't have phones written proof would have been nice.

It will show up on dds iPod so I could show the mother in a quiet moment tomorrow?
She does think her dd can do no wrong so I'm having trouble composing a text that doesn't sound petty!

Absolutely agree, the phone is just the modern medium and completely beside the point. The only benefit is that you have been able to see the bullying for yourself rather than it being contained in playground.

Just have a quiet word with the mum tomorrow and let her know that whilst you appreciate that girls fall in and out with each other all the time, you don't really want to receive messages at home.

Thanks for the replies

Contact the Mum she needs to sort it out and see the nasty messages her Dd is sending.
My Dd is 8, I'd be very angry to find out that she was sending nasty messages to anyone, whether it was by iPad, or paper notes. My Dd has computer access but no messaging allowed.

i would have a chat with the mum ,be prepared for worse though when they get on facebook and twitter when they are older , it gets really nasty.

The ipad is relevant though ilove. Yes, kids have always been horrible if they are that way inclined but the phones etc allow them to hide away and still be mean for 24 hrs a day. Cowardly actually isn't it? In this case, preventing messaging would prevent this type of nastiness.

What SprinkleLiberally said.

She is going to have to contend with all this stuff when she's older, she shouldn't have to deal with it yet.
It seems OP is monitoring the messaging which is great, but I would stop it altogether for now.