We have had a really tough year, DH's father has been very ill, through no fault of his own DH lost his job and has started again from scratch, we had 4 mcs before falling pregnant (this was before DH losing job) and there has been an awful lot of family stresses putting pressure on us, these are still ongoing. DH supports his families business aswell. We are due DC2 in a few weeks. I have a good job but money is tight...
Problem is where DH helps with family he never gets time off, he just cannot get a decent 'at home' break to relax. If he takes time off at home he either ends up feeling really guilty and gets pressurised into doing other things. He is exhausted and even if he does get a few hours off he thinks its mandatory to do things round the house or jobs he's been putting off for ages, etc, etc. I just think for him to have a proper break and really relax with family we need to go away. I have found a nice holiday park , and if we're not silly with money we can afford it. We have no debts, we just don't have alot of free cash either. DH thinks we can better use the money elsewhere or put it to savings. I disagree I think he needs a break and we all need some nice family time away from all the hassle we've been through. Especailly with a new baby, I think our toddler would also benefit from dedicated family time.
We do spend time as a family and DH is a very good father. It is just especailly at the moment, his work and family business all pull him in different directions. I know he is just trying to support us, but equally I really think he needs a break before he crashes.