To dislike attention-seeking "woe is me" facebook updates with no explanation

[frogspoon]

Facebook friend has recently posted this update:

"Today has been absolutely heartbreaking. Sulking, wine and zombie films are required."

Several friends have responded to the messages by asking what is wrong. She has not bothered to respond to any of them.

AIBU to think there is probably nothing wrong and she is just attention seeking as usual. Surely if something bad actually had happened, she would explain. She does have a habit of posting these messages often, usually the outcome being that her boyfriend has a cold/ has gone away for the weekend etc.

[Loulybelle]

Mrs DV, i've had that alot, and the "tell me one think you like about me"

[Latara]

One of my (heavily pregnant) colleagues has posted ''not well'' on her FB status today; there's been lots of ''awright hun, is the baby ok'' in reply from all my other colleagues, but she hasn't updated anyone.

So now people are really worried when she is probably enjoying her tea!

[MySpecialistSubjectIsMN]

I have found that when something genuinely awful happens I don't have time for FB. However I know that is a personal preference and some do use it as an outlet.

Each to their own but I sometimes think stepping back from FB would sometimes be better than the outpourings I see, which should probably remain private, for both the person and their friends.

[BinksToEnlightenment]

HairyGrotter, I know exactly what you mean :o

I have hate friends on facebook. They drive me batshit, but I couldn't bear to miss the opportunity for some righteousness indignation.

[BananasInBikinis]

My sister is pretty bad for the cryptic updates. She will often just put a sad face " :-( " as her status update. Loads of people will say 'hope you're okay' etc,, but she never explains further.

She once did a very depressed sounding post, something along the lines of 'I don't know why I bother with life anymore, any time I try I just get kicked back down' or something. I phoned my Mum a bit worried, and it turned out her electricity bill was higher than usual. (Sister is wonderful in real life though).

[manticlimactic]

One of my mates is like this. I remember being nosey and asking her via inbox, because normally if anyone asks she'll say I'll inbox you.

Her reply? Ah it's nothing and I wish people would stop asking me about it. She didn't like me saying stop putting it on FB if you don't want anyone asking, otherwise you look like a sad attention seeker.

[KC225]

HairyGrot: What is a grief vampire?

[MyDarlingClementine]

Yes very annoying when anyone repeatedly posts anything when no one knows what they mean.

I just think you sad bored person really.

[BegoniaBampot]

I think the thing about clearing accounts and inbox to stay friends is sometimes an automatic thing that goes out, not necessarily from the person.

None of my friends do these attention seeking things -well maybe one and I don't hide her as I find it a bit car cash fascinating.

[sleepingsatellite]

I dont know whats worse tbh, the ones who just post , or the ones who write a War and Peace sized saga about the trials of their lives!

I hate the pregnancy ones though as I always worry, especially if they then dont answer the phone

[CelticPixie]

Well said cousin who I mentioned yesterday has decided to deactivate her account again today..... Until next week when she realises she's not getting any attention anymore and then she's back.

[Whatisthepointoffriendships]

Lol at mood hoovers!

I have a fb friend who is very attention seeking. Lots of cryptic statuses,and duck faced photos in front of the mirror which get lots of 'oh wow Hun you are gorgeous' comments. Also she brags and puts photos on of stuff she buys. She is 40 and I'd say my 14 year old is more mature than her.

[YouTheCat]

It is only attention seeking if you do it often.

I also hate the facebook 'check in' - so and so is at A & E etc. Cue lots of 'Hope ur ok hun xxx' and stuff.

I have some on there who practically live in a and e it would seem.

[Whatisthepointoffriendships]

I hate the a&e check ins too. And then often the person won't come back to answer the questions asking why they are there. Why check in there if they don't want to talk about it?!

[YouTheCat]

Also I've had some friends deactivate for a set time so they could get some work done which is fair enough (or even to just have a break from it). But then there are 1 or 2 who deactivate every other month. I know one who does it and then gets loads of texts etc asking if she's ok and then a few weeks later she'll reactivate it again.

I ignore her mainly. She is nearly 50 ffs.

[Gossipmonster]

I have people who take "Facebook Breaks"

Really? You are that fucking important that you need a break from your fans?

[Titsalinabumsquash]

I have a policy on Facebook, anyone who does this type of post more than 3 times in a row is a gonner.

Anyone who posts or shares any sexist or racist bullshit is gone first time.

I do however have one girl who makes my teeth itch although she's a closer relative so I've just had to 'hide' get to stop family politics going nuts, she does the 'why do I bother with life' and the lovely 'nice to know even my family don't give a shut when none of them will even bring me a fag' type posts. What makeshift laugh more is that they're always ended with a kiss!

Eg. "Life is so shit, I give and give and get nuffin bk! Xxx"

[YouTheCat]

All I get from my family on there is 'check in at the pub'

[prettywhiteguitar]

One of favourite things to do with Dp, reading out annoying things on Facebook, keeps our relationship fresh

One of my personal favourites is when someone does something ordinary and every comment is AMAZINGG!!! Wow you're soooooo the best xyz !! Awwww thanks hun so r u !!!!
Puke bucket please plz

[MunchkinsMumof2]

I have vaguebookers too "some people are just not worth the effort" oh hun are you ok? Who has upset you? Chin up you're worth more bla bla ba. Does my nut.

[Minetired]

My sis-in-law, is always on Facebook going on about how her husband is useless and doesn't pay her an attention. I cant believe how many of her friends like her status, and tell her all men are bastards. Then within 24hrs he is be best hubby in the world and she couldn't live without him! All her friends then like her status and tell her how lucky she is!!!!
If she wasn't family I would delete her as a friend.

[sallysparrow157]

A mate of mine posted a while ago something along the lines of "stressy day today, looking forward to getting home and sitting on the sofa with a cuppa" so not overly attention seeking, just a bit of a moan but deliberately not going int what was making her day stressy (so as not to openly moan about her workplace on Facebook). A couple of friends then decided to comment on her status with great detail about the somewhat sensitive work situation and as she was on her phone on the Facebook ap thingy she couldn't log in to delete it, making her stressy day a bit worse! I agree that the very clear attention seeking posts are annoying but sometimes cryptic ones are needed if you want to have a bit of a moan without getting into trouble (though still annoying if you're nosey and don't know what they're talking about)