I am so low today.
My house is an absolute pit, my older dc are 9 and 10 and getting them to pick up after themselves is such a battle.
DH has categorically said no to a cleaner, it comes up every few months and he promises to do more, does more for a week and then we're back to normal. We have a shit load of debt at the moment(unavoidable, and for an unexpected but necessary evil) so extra spending would only add to my stress at the moment anyway.
Today is my day off and I usually gut the house on a Friday (I work 7am to 6pm the other four days) but toddler Dc3 is full of cold and clingy and is now asleep on me so all I've managed to do is the bathroom and our bedroom.
Dh does loads in other ways, he does all the evening clubs and does the kids bedtimes and things, but I just can't get him to do any meaningful housework. If he does any he makes such a fucking meal of it. I asked him to clean the bathroom at the weekend after shaving. He wiped the shelf and then got sidetracked. He pointed out that the stairs needed hoovering on Monday. He didn't do anything about it though.
Our bedroom is full of stuff of his that has no home. He just piles shit on top of shit on top of shit. Our loft and garage are both full to the brim of crap, but he won't sort it.
I have pictures that need to go up, there are doors that were hung a year ago and still haven't been painted. I do all the other diy and decorating but these are two jobs I've specifically delegated to him and we're in a weird and petty situation now where he hasn't done it and I don't want to even though I could.
He talks a good talk, and will do Man cleaning every once in a while (you know the sort, hoovering that takes an hour, using a bottle of bleach to do the kitchen) but everything just falls to me.
I don't want a show home, or even a particularly tidy home, I am talking about just a maintenance level of clean. He 'washes up' after dinner most days but all he does is stack the dishwasher and leave a sink full of dirty pots 'to soak'. I have told him, shown him, what a clean kitchen looks like but it doesn't sink in.
I am so sick of doing all the cleaning, all the cooking, all the shopping, all the thinking. He went out last night (for work) wearing tattered jeans. Because I haven't gone out and bought him new jeans or made him buy them.
It's all on me and I feel broken.
Help me, or slap me or something.
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LizzyMcGuire · 05/04/2013 15:07
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