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to have commented on this?

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BunnyLebowski · 02/04/2013 23:31

Cousin of mine. Male, 40's, married with kids, Irish so not massively feminist but a fella who works with women (nurse) and has a wife he appears to love (although I have my doubts about certain aspects of this).

has just posted a picture equivalent to this

Not the exact one but a female DJ with the same caption. Tagging a fellow male cousin who has "hahahahahd" all over it Hmm

I commented, "I don't get the joke."

I know, I know, FB is the work of the devil but I'm still Angry as surely what people write on FB is representative of society?

Disclaimer: I only have 60 friends and as a huge feminist/LGBT supporter none are bigots. Or so I thought.

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HoHoHoNoYouDont · 02/04/2013 23:35

I actually though it was funny.

Irish so not massively feminist. That's the bit I don't get.

thezebrawearspurple · 02/04/2013 23:35

It's a joke and I find it funny. There's lots of jokes on fb mocking male stereotypes too.

usualsuspect · 02/04/2013 23:36

What has being Irish got to do with this?

bridgetsmum · 02/04/2013 23:38

I'm with hohoho
What does Irish have to do with not being massively feminist?!?!?

malteserzz · 02/04/2013 23:38

I thought it was funny !

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 02/04/2013 23:40

We all know it's the Aussie blokes...... Grin I blame it on the Fosters.

WorraLiberty · 02/04/2013 23:44

Oh come on that made me laugh! Grin

Look, people can laugh at things because they're just 'wrong' you know.

That's why I found it funny because it's wrong.

If anyone thought it was right, they wouldn't laugh at all would they because to them it wouldn't be a joke?

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BunnyLebowski · 02/04/2013 23:44

I'm Irish. The generation of men I grew up with (this man included) have proven to be less inclined to have feminist tendencies than men I've met from other parts of the world.

From my personal experience most still think that a wife who cooks/cleans/child-rears/doesn't mind if you spend all weekend in the pub watching football and horses is the jackpot.

All of this is part of the reason I left rural Ireland as soon as I could.

So you genuinely don't think the photo is offensive to women?

What, dare I ask, exactly is so funny about a woman venturing out of her traditional historic drudgery and daring to do what only men used to?

I don't get the joke.

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WorraLiberty · 02/04/2013 23:44

And yes, what does being Irish have to do with this?

Not offended, just curious Confused

ll31 · 02/04/2013 23:47

I'm irish too, v different experience to you. Think it's mildly amusing, no more than that

TheCraicDealer · 02/04/2013 23:53

Yeah I'm sorry, it was the "Irish so not massively feminist" that made me baulk more than the meme.

I think it's mildy amusing, in the same way that I find the odd "there was an Irishman, and Englishman and a Scotsman jokes" funny, despite them also pandering to stereotypes. However, had someone gone to the effort of posting it on their Facebook I'd think they were a bit knobby. There's funnier stuff out there that doesn't make you look like a prick.

OP, if you really want to Facebook fine, look at lad bible. That does offend my feminist (with a veeeery small F) sensibilities.

anothershittynickname · 02/04/2013 23:56

I think you're missing the double standard of your post!

You can't choose to be one 'ism and not another. The Irish statement (whether you're Irish or not) is as offensive as the caption to the pic!!

FWIW I laughed at the pic too!

Startail · 02/04/2013 23:56

lighten up, it's mildly sexist and mildly amusing in oh do try harder sort of way.

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squeakytoy · 03/04/2013 00:02

its. a. joke.

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HoHoHoNoYouDont · 03/04/2013 00:07

Name and shame 'em Kansas We'll pile in there this weekend Grin

Booyhoo · 03/04/2013 00:10

glad i'm not the only one Hmm about the irish bit. (and i'm irish)

not offended by the photo. definitely wouldn't anger me as it has you.

FloraFox · 03/04/2013 00:12

I don't think it's funny. It's lazy and not clever. I expect better from the Irish.

TranceDaemon · 03/04/2013 00:14

Well I'd have had the same reaction as you OP and would also have posted a similar comment.

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 03/04/2013 00:15

I agree Flora. As said up thread it is something I'd expect from an Aussie more so than an Irish.

PickledInAPearTree · 03/04/2013 00:15

There's one in Cardiff. Can't remember the name it's a members one.

AlfalfaMum · 03/04/2013 00:16

I have a DH and a father (mine) who'd belie your generalisation about Irish men.
But I agree it's a crap joke.

Booyhoo · 03/04/2013 00:17

i visited a friend in wales and he told me that i might get some funny looks in his local because they had only recently changed teh rules to allow women inside the mens bar. before there had been two separate bars for men and women. well sure enough when i walked in with him i was the only woman and heads started to turn and whisper until the woman (yes they were happy for a woman to serve them) behind teh bar reminded them that it was ok as the rules had changed. we were tehre with a big mixed crowd and when we went back out to the beer garden all teh women were asking the partners to order for them. i asked why the didn't go in themselves as they were 'allowed' now and every single one of them said they didn't feel right going in as it was still really the men's bar. i was really shocked.