to consider getting a boob job?

[fizzykola]

Its just seems very not 'me'. I've never been a large lady. But having hit 40 and two DC down, my norks are like tiny empty samosas .

It makes me feel very unsexy, and I can't help thinking that it would improve sex with DH. It's nothing to do with his reaction, he's always saying how sexy I am etc, it really is down to my own reaction. I think if I was a bloke I'd be a 'boob man' - I do think they're really womanly and attractive. I remember when I was PG and my boobs got a bit bigger, how much sexier I felt and how much more I initiated things.

But I don't feel cosmetic surgery is the magic answer, and am put off by:

the expense
having a major op
having to get them replaced over time - is that right?
having two alien sacs in my body= maybe not feeling so sexy after all?

I wouldn't want massive bazookas, just a enough to fill a bra and a handful!

Any views? Anyone been there done that, wore the tighter t-shirt??

[SmilingCrocodile]

Also Fizzy I went with Harley Medical Group - who were fantastic.

You go for a consultation first and talk to a nurse first.

So any worries you have, replacements, how they would feel etc you'd be able to ask all of these and then make your decision.

Good luck on whatever you decide to do.

[MoreCrackThanHarlem]

I would like mine doing.

They are like saggy, empty sacks after breastfeeding.
I know lots of women with implants and the majority look fantastic. Unless you knew it would never be obvious.
A good surgeon with personal recommendations is the key.

I have great bras that make my boobs look fantastic in clothes, but on the beach and in bed I feel, well, deflated.

'Contrary to belief a lot of men hate fake boobs. My husband has an ex who had a boob job and he found it a massive turn off. Said they felt and looked horrible.'

^this made me smile. I suspect most men, if questioned, would feel uncomfortable discussing the finer points of their ex girlfriend's anatomy with their current wife. He's hardly likely to tell you what a pair of corkers she had

[lottieandmia]

'No, I do believe him Lottie. He just isn't a fan of the fake look.

Plus I've seen some really shockingly bad boob jobs - and I have felt fake boobs (friend had them done and I was curious!) and they felt very strange.'

Yes, there are some bad ones - that's why it's important to find a good plastic surgeon. I think that if you're with a man then he will like you for who you are whether you have implants or not, personally. But it sounds like the OP wants to do it for herself which is the important thing.

[lottieandmia]

Yes, when people are talking about their exes they will no longer have any emotional attachment to them and tend to make negative remarks if anything ime.

[midastouch]

Before my DC i had 32DD boobs they are now droopy and empty 32C. I would love my boobs back but id never do it even if i had the money, the horror stories worry too much.
If you 100% want it go for it, its your body and if it makes you happier nobody has the right to judge

[MooMooSkit]

I think you defintely need to give it a few months worth of thinking about it before you do anything and if you still feel the same, then it might be worth considering. However, please just do it for you and you only! I know my other half loves my boobs the way they are but I'm still going through with a reduction one day as it's the way I feel about them that makes me sad!

[theodorakisses]

I had a lift and it is absolutely fantastic. It hasn't changed my life or made me happier but it does make me feel better about that part of my body. I am a 34B and can just buy bras off the shelf. I didn't have any side effects, 2 nights in hospital and a few days at home.
I look at it that this body only has another 30 years or so and then, when it is buried in the ground it won't matter what it looks like. Until then, if it helps, then why the hell not?

[midori1999]

If you decide to go ahead, please avoid large companies like The Harley Medical Group, Transform etc. You only have to see how they used cheap PIP implants and then ditched their patients when the PIP scandal came to light, to see how they treat their patients. plus, these companies use cosmetic surgeons, who are not as highly qualified as plastic surgeons and would not be likely to gain employment in the NHS as they arent qualified enough. you can find a reputable surgeon who is BAAPS or BAPRAS registered either through your GP or BAAPS or BAPRAS directly.

I have had two breast enlargements. Initially went from an A to a D cup and then in 2008 to a GG cup, although I'm currently breastfeeding and do an H/HH cup. They don't look at all fake, no one suspects I've had it done unless I tell them (I'm not the 'type' apparently ) and perhaps surprisingly they don't even look that big for my size/frame. I wasn't unhappy with my breasts before really, I just fancied them being bigger. it hasn't changed my life in any way, it hasn't improved my sex life, I just have bigger breasts.

However, breastfeeding and recurrent mastitis has caused problems with the implants and one has possible ruptured. They are also PIP implants. Once I am finished breastfeeding (currently pregnant and still nursing a toddler now, do wont be for a while!) I'll be getting my implants removed and probably not getting them replaced as health problems I have now that I didn't have at the time of the original surgeries mean any surgery is risky and although implant's don't need routine replacement, you can't ever rule out the need for them being replaced if there's a problem.

[Lilipaddle]

no experience, but I would assume fake boobs would feel very different to real boobs? That alone would put me off unless it was a situation of having a breast replaced that had been removed for medical reasons.
Try a push up bra.

[OhLori]

I've never read such a rubbishy thread on MN tbh. But good luck with the surgery.

[HoneyStepMummy]

The only regret I have is not getting my surgery much earlier! I'm extremely happy with the results and have no problems at all. I don't look fake and my boobs feel like real tissue.

However I did think about getting them done for years and spent years researching it. Before you take the plunge see if you can do other things to make you feel happier about how your breasts make you feel. Try working out, buy a really pretty bra that makes you feel good, and try to focus on another part of your body that you like and makes you feel sexy (great legs, nice bum, toned arms etc)

Most people can't tell and don't know that mine are fake.

[BarredfromhavingStella]

No experience of this but I think if you want them done then go for it. I would however say that when I was younger I always said if I had the cash I'd go up a cup, this was until I watched a programme that showed the procedure in full-put me right off

[stephrick]

I need a boob job, but the other way, you can have some of mine.

[theodorakisses]

I was given a choice between simple surgery with scars and keyhole without. As I have not yet been poached from the world of HR to be a bikini model, I went for the scars, most have faded now but it doesn't worry me anyway.

[SnookyPooky]

Had mine done 8 years ago. Never regretted it, no problems at all.
Best advice is to find a good surgeon, don't go too big and have them placed under the muscle.
I would have other stuff done too if I had the money.

[lottieandmia]

Nobody knows I've had mine done - not even my parents.

[dopeysheep]

A good bra is not going to change the fact that as soon as you unhook the bugger, your tits go awry.
I would have one but think I would need a lift and fill, not just extra stuffing. It's quite involved and I have a feeling they have to cut your nipples off and reattach them. Bleurch. I only know this from tv though so could be wrong.

[Feminine]

I don't truly know how I feel about it. op

I'm not in favour of messing about with GA unless there is a true medical need. I think we should look at pictures of what real breasts look like, more often. most of us really only see the ones in magazines!

I think we should learn to love what we are left with, after kids.

and buy a decent properly fitted bra. :)

[SnookyPooky]

I had the choice of through the nipple or incision underneath. I went for underneath. A scar there that it hardly noticeable. A friend had hers through the nipple (same surgeon) and she was fine.

[propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS]

I would not do it. I would not risk my health for a cosmetic, far from essential procedure. Spend the money on some designer bags, shoes, scarves, new underwear and clothes. You can raise your game safer ways.

[Mosman]

I am going to have a 2nd uplift soon, I foolishly had mine "done" they were fab and then had another baby.
I cannot recommend it enough for your confidence, I had teardrop implants and they look brilliant even now, but i'm a perfectionist ;-)

[dopeysheep]

Did they cut your nipples off and reattach Mosman?
Off to google teardrop implants now!

[midori1999]

dopey, they don't always 'cut your nipples off' (they're not totally cut off), it depends on what type of incision you need for an uplift, there are several types.

Also, the type of implant, incision, placement etc may suit one person, but not another. A good surgeon will obviously be experienced enough to guide you as to what would be best in your situation.

For an augmentation (no uplift) it is possible to just have a local anaesthetic now in the UK, as far as I know, nowhere in the UK offers this for uplift too yet though.

[igotaway]

I had mine done too, about 6 years ago, and look and feel brilliant. I went from an 'empty' 34a to a full 36d.

I have all sensation and never in a million years would you be able to tell

I did it for me and nobody else. It makes me laugh when I read about women who snort and get their judgy pants on, I think its because they want something done, but don't dare to.

I had the incision done underneath and the scar is totally invisible. I wasn't stitched, but glued back together.

Op, do the rice test first.. which is what my surgeon recommended, it might seem funny, but it gives you the idea.
Purchase a bra of the size you want eg 36d, (just get the cheapest you can) weigh out 2 equal portions of rice of 250grams, put into sealable bags and put into your new big bra and wear for as long as you like - gives you an idea of what you will look like! Some may scoff at this, put in more rice or less til you get the size you want - sounds totally daft I admit, but it works.

My surgeon was excellent, gave me a thorough talking too before hand, not like some of the groups that will tell you how fab you'll look, just for the money.
I can pm you his name if need be, he works mainly in the west midlands.

Whatever you decide, good luck.

[Bunbaker]

"Initially went from an A to a D cup and then in 2008 to a GG cup"

I'm curious as to why you felt the need to go up again. Not judging, just nosey. I would like more curves, but am too chicken to do anything about it.