well yes probably. But I'm sad and disappointed so let me have a whinge.

[OestraJen]

DD was sick at about 9pm, in her bed .

So I phoned my sister and let her know DD was poorly so we wouldn't be coming for lunch with all the family.

This morning DD got up, ran around, had an easter egg and has now gone out in the garden on her bike.

I phoned my sister to say that obvioulsy it was her call but I think DD might have eaten something that disagreed with her rather than it being a bug.

She categorically said NO, we are not risking it.

So we are staying home and making do. Which is fine.

BUT.

I have looked after her two dc all week. And they've been ill. High temperatures, dosed up with Calpol, clingy and upset. And not only has she worked, she's worked late every day.

And I KNOW sickness is different from tonsilitis but I am just a bit sad and cross that we've been told to stay away with our germs when the same didnt' apply in reverse.

I'm just having a moan here, it's not the end of the world and it's not something I'm going to bring up. I'm just looking for a bit of validation for my whinge.

AIBU?

Have to say I'm always more cautious of vomiting bugs than temperature ones - I probably would also have erred on side of caution - but totally get that you're upset after all you've done for her.

Who is looking after her kids tomorrow/this week?? If it's you perhaps say you'd better not because of DDs bug Tempting to see if her reaction would be the same! But you are probably too nice to do it!

I wouldn't be wanting a child who has been sick either to be honest.

DD was supposed to be going to a sleepover yesterday but the mum phoned me and said that her DD had been violently sick during the night and although was eating and seemed fine thought she should let me know. She too thought it may have been something she ate but who knows. I kept DD away, the last thing we need is a sick bug (if that's what it was).

You're not being silly. How you feel is perfectly understandable.

It was her call though. You might be all-in-together which is lovely of you...but she isn't. She thinks that given the choice, she'd rather not risk a stomach bug sweeping through the house.

I'd have said no thanks too.

All that asides, it sounds as though you need to come to a new understanding with your sister regarding childcare anyway. I think she needs to have more respect for your time. x

Oh meant to say, I get your whinge too.

Yes I would have risked it for family I think your sisters been harsh when you had her kids all week when sick! Tell her you can't look after thf. Next week your dd is still sick. X

I wouldn't want a vommiting child either, but I also wouldn't use the fact that someone else was looking after my sick child who didn't fine me for a late pick up time as an excuse to work late.

I think you should just suck it up this time, but next time she needs help, think about this. Particularly that she thought so little of your kind offer of help that she took the piss every night working late.

yabu given that you gav her the choice. However presumably you could have said no to her sickly dc too.

I agree - let this one slide outwardly...but keep it in mind when regarding her childcare arrangement. Ohhh yes.

YADNBU
Your dsis sounds quite selfish. If I would have had my sister's dcs When they were ill, then I would expect the same back - regardless of the type of illness. Anyway, it's not as if your dd is still puking.
I'm always astonished at how some people just won't put themselves out for anyone

You sound like a really helpful kind sibling - willing to help out even when someone is clearly taking the piss like your sister.

I would just say you cannot look after her dcs next week as your dd is still ill.

And regardless of whether her dcs are unwell, I would start saying no and be less helpful in general in future.

I totally get your whinge. Hope you had a good day anyway.

The only time one of my family members refused having a visit from us with a sick child was when her husband had cancer and was just finished a round of chemo, hence no immune system. Generally the rule with friends and family is come on over, we see each other seldom enough, kids get germs everywhere anyway.

I think firstly you shouldn't have told her about one vomit, kids often vomit once and are perfectly fine. DS did it earlier, he actually go so over excited playing a game that his dinner came up. I also think that she was pretty mean to refuse you. Hope you had a good day.

That was extremely nice of you to look after her sick kids last week. In normal circs I'd say no thanks to a vommed visitor but in this particular case YANBU and she should have welcomed you both round, IMHO.