To be upset?

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I was helping my mum clean up her house and put things away.

As I put clothes away in her drawers, she had stuff in a plastic bag that didn't feel like clothes in there so I took it out.

Imagine my surprise to look in there and find life long mementos of my sisters life. Old birthday cards and Christmas cards she'd given mum, primary school, secondary school work and even an essay from college or uni. Lots of little photos of her as a teenager, and stuff from her wedding.

I looked in all her drawers and there wasn't anything for me. I don't even think there are any old cards or school work of mine when I was that young, none of it was kept. My stuff from graduation is mine, she didn't ask for anything from it. Similarly my essays and work from college / uni she couldn't care less about, it was stuffed in the garage and I was told to take it or chuck it out.

What the Hell is this about. I'm actually very upset about it. I haven't said anything yo.mum about it.

My sister wrecked my graduations as she was so jealous. not my fault she got kicked out of uni.

Its always.about her.

No.I wouldn't touch original wedding.photos.it was a photocopy of.one that was used as a thank you card.to.guests.

Poor you dont know what to say.Hope the rest of your life is amazing.x

Firstly, ignore the shit stirrer.

I can really understand why you're hurt and I'm not going to tell you off for throwing out your sisters wedding pictures because it sounds like they've done a lot worse to you over the years.

I would get on over to relationships and have a look at one of the toxic threads because you'll find a lot of support there.

Agree with others that you need to get away from your mum. She sounds horrible.

Can imagine you are v hurt but it doesnt sound as if it was a one off. You need to get away from your mum and your sister for your own sanity

Oh goodness op I feel so sad for you. Both your sister and yur mother sound like vile toxic people who you need to get away from and stay away from. you do need to think about moving ou f your mums house as it is oing you no good.seek advice from Citizen Advice Breau, Shelter

Hi there OP
Do let us know if you'd like us to move this thread out of AIBU won't you?
Thanks

What about your Dad. I thought he lived with your Mum? Why is it that you cannot move out? Most people have crap childhoods so its a case of just moving on really. You need to move away from home and get your own life back on track. Maybe your both just getting under each others feet.

Sorry, meant ...a lot of people...not most people.

Wow, this seems like the last straw in a very long line of shit from your mum regarding your sister.

Reading about the differences on how she has treated you both, can I ask, are you surprised by this? It seems like finding this has made it even more real for you. I would actually confront her on it, once and for all. Make her explain all the things you have put in this thread. Its not on and she owes you an explanation.

I hate it when a parent blatantly favours a child, the favoured one can never do any wrong and the one who wasn't favourite bends over backwards to do anything and it still isn't right.

Do your self a favour OP, live your life and stop doing a damn thing for your mother. She won't change, she won't suddenly thank you for what you do. Please yourself and fuck her, it is such a toxic relationship that is doing you no good at all.