Owing friend money

[basketweaver2012]

Have NC because i think i may be overreacting a little

My DD (6) went to my friends DDs birthday well over a month ago. After the party friend called me to ask if it was ok for my DD to go shopping with them and could she spend some money. I am completely skint but said yes as I didnt want to for her to spend all day shopping with her friend and not be able to buy something.
I had gone to work by the time DD came home so didnt see what she had bought but called friend to say thank you for taking her and ask how much did I owe her. Im pretty sure and im only doubting myself now, that friend said that it was her treat and not to worry about it. This wasnt untypical of friend as before DD has come home from shopping trips with a little something as has her DD when her DD has been with shopping with us.

Fast forward to yesterday when friends DD called the house phone to say my DD hasnt paid her the £10 she owes and she needed it back straight away as she was going shopping.
I was a little taken aback as i speak to friend at length on the phone 3-4 times a week and nothing had been mentioned before but said i hadnt any cash in the house so could I speak to her mum. Friend was in the shower and her DD kept saying DD needs to give the money today.

Friend calls back a few minutes later and I told her if she wasnt going out straight away id drive to the cash machine and get the £10. Friend said it was ok and she'd lend her DD the £10, with her DD in the background crying "basketweavers DD needs to pay it back now"

This morning i withdrew the money and as soon as I had arrived home, another friend/neighbour (i'll call her friend 2) calls to say she is really sorry but I owe her £10?? It turns out friend 1's older DD owed friend 2s DD £15 for a dress and had brought round £5 and told friend 2 to get the £10 from me!

Now friend 2 is miffed off as she felt bad asking me for the money and feels like shes been put in the middle. As it goes, i've given friend 2 the £10 no problem but what if i didnt have it? Friend 2 would have been mad at me then (we are both strapped) and could have caused bad feeling between us and friend 1 had also potentially embarrssed me by highlighting that i owe them money.
I think also that due to the length of time elasped since this apparent loan friend 1 thought maybe she wasnt going to get it back so clawed it back by making friend 2 the one i owed.
I know its only £10, the amount isnt really relevant, it just seems to shitty way to go about things.

BTW none of this has been conducted by friend, just her 2 DDs passing messages on to adults.
AIBU to a little annoyed buy the whole senario?

I think YABU - at the phone call you should have said could you lend dd £5 or £10 or whatever you felt reasonable & paid it back when they dropped her home OR you should have said no she can't spend any money. If I borrow money off friends I always pay it back asap without the need for them (or their kids) to ask!

Red Helen- I was at work when DD came home. Friend rang me to see if she could give DD some money and I said yes and I would pay her back when they got home. As it was DD came home an hour later then agrees and I had gone to work so I called friend to thank her and ask how much se had spent and what I owed. I hadn't seen what DD had actually bought and friend said it was her treat. Next day i saw what she had bought which was a 1D notebook and assumed that it was only a few pound anyway. Turns out that one notepad was in fact £10!! If I'd known it was £10 I'd have insisted she let me pay but as when I've taken her DD to the shops before and bought a little something like a headband or whatever it was on similar lines and that's what we've always done for each others kids.

So it definitely wasn't just the friend's children who were asking for the money trying a bit of a scam?

No turns out crossed wires which I profusely apologised for and said I'd pay back straight away.
Further developments in that she's rung me tonight and i answered the phone- she's been ringing constantly all day non stop she's screams at me down the phone and says friend 2 shouldn't feel embarrassed and making a mountain out if a mole hill type thing.
I'm reay cross, couldn't get a word in edge ways and she's come tell refused to listen to any reasoning of why friend 2 thought it was awkward and if she's called me or text to ask me to bob it round to friend 2 I'd have done that gladly.

I think you need new friends.