to wonder if my bf is an alcoholic?

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He drinks every night - to be fair not till 5 or 6pm but then he will drink until may 10pm or what ever time he goes to bed - 2 cans of beer and at least a bottle of wine, maybe more.
He doesn't drink spirits and doesn't drink in the day but I wonder if this is still a drink problem. He admits he drinks alot, says he admires me that I am not really interested in alcohol - maybe one glass of wine a month if I fancy it with dinner, and says he wishes he could have a couple of dry nights a week but that he enjoys a drink daily. Ironically he is a daily gym-goer every morning.
But it is boring sitting with someone when they are drinking nightly, not wanting sex, just watching tv and if there is every any emergency he would be no use. If I am not seeing him in the evening, it is pointless trying to have a conversation on the phone after say 7pm as he has had a few by then and is irritable and impatient.
Anyone been in a similar situation? Thanks

I work for a substance misuse assessment team and the number of times I've sat down with both men and women who drink about the same or more than your BF daily and swear blind that their drinking is not even an issue for them is countless. They often come to see us purely because a partner or family member has expressed concern about their drinking but they are really just going through the motions, their notion of what an alcoholic or dependent drinker is bears no resemblance to them. Sadly it sounds as though your BF seems quite happy as he is and would carry on regardless of whether you were in his life or not. Thankfully from several comments that you have added it seems that you have your independence and although you care about him someone just being "good company and fun" during the day is not a basis to build a relationship on. I honestly think that unless he shows any willingness to change his lifestyle at all, which it appears that he doesn't as it sounds that he doesn't really have anything to lose by carrying on drinking then you really should think about ending your relationship.

Thank you everyone. Really appreciate your comments - my mum would give me a talking to if she was still alive!

Thanks again - am signing off now. Night.

good night to you, too.

in the morning, please consider why you are bothering. If you are bothered enough to issue an ultimatum, do so. If not, then leave him to throw away his life and you get on with yours.

good luck.

This is your second thread on this man today isn't it, OP? I thought you'd decided on the other thread that you were wasting your time with him.