To leave my H to entertain his family and the DC for the weekend?

[hamandeggagain]

Bit of background: At the moment I am a SAHM. I do all washing, tidying, food shopping, meal planning cooking. I do all child related care expect on Sat/Sun when he will do bathtime (not stories) and take one or both DC out to the park. He does a well paid job with long hours so I have swallowed this carving up of tasks fr the time being.

His family are due to descend today (parents staying over, sister and her DH and 3 kids will be visiting several times over the bank holiday weekend so will be having meals here, ditto his brother and his other half.) I have planned some meals with others to be taken care of over the weekend when the MIL invades my kitchen. He cannot cook and likes having the opportunity to catch up with siblings so I'll spend all weekend skivvying again.

H went out for drinks with friends last night. I specifically asked him not to get hammered and roll in in the early hours so he could help me with some house chores and small DIY jobs before the family descend. Guess what? 1.30am, the worse for wear and he's now sleeping it off whilst I look after the DC (age 3 and 1) again.

WIBU to pack a bag and leave for the weekend? Probably go to my parents. I've priced train tickets just haven't booked but need to make a decision soon.

I agree with PP.

Go to the cinema and have lunch out on your own, telling dh you are fed up of being taken for granted.

If he is still being a pain, go to your Mums!

This is pretty easily rectified. Just say get up right now and get him doing everything whilst you sit down, and if he doesnt like it say shouldnt of gone out then as I said dont go out late. If its a state when his family get there then its take away or snacks.

Why on earth would you even care if it was messy for his parents, its not like its your parents. Everyone should sort out their own side of family.

I only said hope there's somewhere to go as everywhere is closed here today!

Of course, not everywhere is the same!

Finding friends to visit at short notice would be hard as they'll all have plans but there's plenty to do here as I'm in London!

I'm sick of being taken for granted. He's done this sort of thing before. If I get him up and stick around he'll be unpleasant. Not moody, just really moany. He'll stink (farty and bad breath) and he'll be even more useless than usual because he won't think straight with the hangover.

His folks don't get here until this evening - I'm supposed to be cooking us a meal. Today was for sorting the house out - not particularly for them but because we're always so busy that an extra day to do stuff is really helpful to me, he never notices the state of the place and would walk round in the dark before changing a lightbulb

It's the fact I said I was happy for him to go out (on our last night together without guests until after he gets back from his business trip in a fortnight) so long as it wasn't a late one and he was in a fit state to help today. Agghhh. Selfish pig.

Were you in agreement to be the Hostess for this weekend or did your H just tell you they were coming and that was that?

It sounds like there are deeper issues than just him being a lazy arse and getting pissed last night.

Is he up yet?

He got up about 10. Watched the kids and the TV whilst I worked round them. So far I've cleaned the fridge, loaded and unloaded the dishwasher, emptied the guest room of all the crp so his parents can get in it then reorganised the loft space so we could get the crp in it. And put away said cr*p.

So far we've managed to ask each other about cups of tea and getting showers.

I hate this and I hate myself for becoming so stuck with such a selfish b*stard. Not a sorry nor a thank you. What a twat.

But at least I'm not BU!

You need to talk to him about this when he's not hung over. He will interpret everything badly because alcohol is a depressant. I think you have both got into this cycle. Why does he do nothing on the weekends? You effectively have a 7 day a week job (24 hours if your 1 yo is like mine was). He gets lovely weekends off. Split the time off. 50:50. If he never does childcare or housework it is much easier for him to think it's a walk in the park.

So sorry ham. He couldn't even apologise? What a prat.

You're a better person than me, because I wouldn't put up with his behaviour today. He should be helping you.

How are things today?