To feel hurt

[Bunraku]

My DH has just had a conversation with his mum which generally consisted of"Sorry we didn't get DS anything for his birthday, we're completely skint at the moment and we've been busy." This is fairly common as they are in financial difficulty at the moment, and I didn't expect anything from them.

DH was upset as a couple of days after the call he saw some pictures on the dreaded facebook dated on DS's birthday, of PIL and SIL at her house putting up a wendy house that was tagged "DD's pressie from nana and grampy"
We know these wendy house things aren't cheap so we were a bit as to how PIL could afford it, and also that they were all too busy to come to my DS's birthday tea and this appears to be why, PIL do not work and SIL is a SAHM as am I, so it's not as if their schedules are tight. We didn't see PIL at xmas either as she was busy at SIL's

After a few days we received another phone call from MIL asking it was possible to borrow a bit of money as their hoover had packed up. I often lend them money when things are tight as that's what families are for, but this time DH was irritated and asked them how they had managed to run out of money when they bought the house for SIL's DD. MIL's response was a breezy "oh you know how it is, SIL needs more help than you guys do doesn't she...."

SIL is no different to us, we both have our own houses, are both SAHM's and both have husbands bringing in a liveable wage, the only difference is that she has parents to fall back on for childcare and I don't and SIL uses this to the point of exhaustion as her DN is at PIL virtually all the time while SIL and her partner carry on living the childless lifestyle. So why does MIL bend over backwards for one GC and not the other? It is true that mothers prefer their daughter's children to their son's for some reason?

[pigletmania]

You say that you often help them out financially op as that is what families do. Op what do tey do for you and your family! Sounds like not a lot, they are one of life's takers, I am shed and appalled at how shoddily tey have treated their grandson, how badly they treated you when your moter died, refusing to look after ter grandson for on day, it instead opted to look after grandaughter instead. Sod them, their other Chidren can help them