To think that there are many many right ways to bring up a child?

[N0tinmylife]

Reading through all the threads on MN, it seems as if every other thread is about what is the "right" way to bring up your child. FF v's BF, unconditional parenting v's conditional parenting, big families, small families, and many more.

Are they not all "right" if they work for the individual family? Apart from cases where there is some form of neglect or abuse, which is obviously wrong. The vast majority of children, grow up to be reasonable functioning adults, and I would take a wild guess that they are all brought up differently, as if there was only one way that worked, we would surely all be doing it?

Maybe we should all try and give each other a break, and stop trying to prove our way is the right way? I think we are all just basically muddling along, trying not to screw up our children too much, and we need to stop over thinking it, and all do what feels right to us?

[Lueji]

That's just purchase, I imagine.
I need to calculate maintenance too over 20 years.
Although I could put them to make money from age 16 I suppose, perhaps even earlier.