to be jealous?

[TrippingSpider]

So, very quickly. I was sick on Saturday, my younger, single sister needed a lift somewhere so DH said he'd go. I said id make dinner. 2, nearly 3 hours passed and no sign of them so i call and he sounds drunk. Turns out they'd gone for a drink to this little pub on a canal, quite out the way of their route. I'm so angry about it - not because i don't trust either of them, it just feels wrong and inappropriate. Also, yes, im jealous because we have 3 kids and haven't been out for a drink in more than 6 months and i love that pub. He doesn't think he's done anything wrong, refuses to acknowledge he's upset me (you're mad) and she says 'lighten up' (when i asked how it came to be that they went there) AIBU?

yanbu

You are being very reasonable, I could not do that to DW even if she wasn't ill or cooking dinner or looking after 3 DCs. Please get through to him so that he knows its not on.

I would be furious in this situation with both sister and husband - it's selfish behaviour, if they wanted a drink they should have picked up a nice bottle of wine for the three of you to share and come back to have the dinner that you were cooking with you. Instead they chose to leave you alone with the DCs knowing that you were ill. My DH and Dsis are friends but neither would dream of doing this to me. And the drink driving is also seriously concerning, both his lack of care and the fact you think it's okay that he does what he wants. Is he normally such a bully to disregard your opinion about serious matters like this?

I would report him in a heartbeat - I'd report absolutely everyone I knew to be drink driving.

It's disgraceful - as said above, if you could tell he was drunk over the phone he had FAR too much to drive.

Who cares about your dinner, he could have killed someone!!!!!!!

Yanbu

I would be furious.

I totally trust my husband and my sister but that's because neither of them would think this reasonable behaviour.

Likewise, I wouldn't do it to dh.

It's actually nothing to do with trust but everything to do with respect.

The inconsiderate behaviour of both your DH and DS would really annoy me, YANBU.

The drink driving is beyond the pale, though. What if one of your kids was (God forbid) hit by a drink driver? Would your DH still think it acceptable?

What Persimmon. If my sister ever did that to me, there would be hell to pay.

Why the heck is she not offering to baby sit so you two can have some adult time? If she knows you are not well and cooking why suggest spontaneous drinks with your DH?
Same applies to DH.
Why are they not more considerate of you?

The drink driving thing is too obvious to even mention. And again your sister is complicit which is a further black mark against your sister.

All I can say is sh*t would hit the fan if this happened in my house.