My besf friend is graduating this year (woohoo!)
It's been a real slog to get where she is while raising her 10yo dd and I'm side-split tingly proud of her.
Her parents have a very unamicable split and in the 10 years I have known her have never been in the same room together. She wants to have at least one pic done by the photographer who the uni have invited (to have more done costs extra as do print packages for more than one shot) so she is concerned about how to get the family shot she wants and to try and prevent stress, unpleasant surprises etc has included a note in email with dates saying she either wants to shot to be all blood family who turn up or just her and dd.
I have told her that she shouldn't pander to family feuds on a day that is once in a lifetime and all about her (to us) and should just say I want these people in my graduation pic and if any one wants to opt out or not hang it on their wall because so and so is in it tough cookies.
Am I being harsh and unnecessary, should I suggest said warring parties are on the edge so they can snip each other off?(only half joking)