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AIBU?

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aibu to not feel like paying her?

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poopadoop · 25/03/2013 00:39

sorry if this is really boring.........
a very nice woman minds our dds (6 and 3) 3 afternoons a week - monday, tuesday and wednesday. She has another commitment as well and so for the last few weeks she has not been able to do the final 2 hours on a tuesday, but we liked her so much we still paid her the same, and she babysat for us for free one night as a sort of pay-back.
Anyway, last week I asked if she could do weds, thurs, fri this week instead of her usual mon, tue, wed as dh and I had work stuff on. She said yes, so we made our plans, but then she got in touch today to say she couldn't do it, followed by an email saying she hopes she can still do full hours this week as she needs the money.
We've managed to arrange cover from family etc and I've emailed her back to say that, and that maybe we could talk by telephone about the situation.....she wants her full pay but isn't available on the (un)typical days she thought she'd be free on.
She is fantastic with the dcs but her saying she can and then can't do these days has been a complete PITA, and while I don't want to 'lose' her I don't really feel like paying her for days that she won't actually be working.......aibu?

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poopadoop · 26/03/2013 01:20

ok, thanks everyone. I agree that communication needs to be better, and I'd personally prefer if she registers. We've compromised for this week.
I should add this is the first time I've ever asked her to change days - she had told me some weeks ago that she'd be free any time we needed her this week, and dh and I booked our shifts accordingly after first checking she was definitely free. Since then she has said something has come up and she's no longer free.
Anyway, I'd a good chat with her and all ok, thanks

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