Is this a phase all boys go through? DSS is 10 and getting more and more difficult about washing/showering/hair washing. Until pretty recently, he's been fine about getting in the bath with DS, but after a little incident I got advice from on here to get him being more independent, so have been encouraging showers. Tonight after having been swimming and out on his bike he spent exactly 4 minutes in the shower (DS and I were playing a timed game, before anyone thinks I am lurking outside the bathroom with a stopwatch) and I later found the remains of a boiled sweet in his hair He keeps finding excuses not to wash/wash properly.
Just so I'm not dripfeeding, his Mum has some 'alternative' views that include washing being bad for you (gets rid of natural oils in the skin) so it isn't as straightforward as just marching him back to the shower.
Are DH and I unreasonable in thinking a shower/bath per day is preferable? How often do preteens wash?