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[qualitytoffee]

I'm tired and pissed off and worried and everything. I feel so lost and lonely, my husband left me when my son was 3 months old, thats grand, but hes 17 now! He's secure and happy, but working full time and dealing with hormones..(mine, not his) is getting to me. AIBU by wanting to go to bed, and sleep and sleep and sleep?

Go to bed, and sleep :)

Then go see your GP

HEAVENS ABOVE breath my dear you havent said your age but maybe your going through the change or are a bit depressed either way you need to see your GP . I like your title i suspect you can laugh at yourself i hope so it good for us all.

Rainbow, thank you pet x I've done all that, and got the tee shirt! i have this mortgage which i can handle, and bills, but i live in a dark cloud, and its getting harder and harder to keep it up.
Sorry xxx

don't be sorry. nothing to be sorry for. you've done amazingly well raising your son.

now, you're beginning to relax and all the horror you've had to push into the background has started creeping up on you. and the future - no longer 'x's mummy' but y - and who is she? you haven't seen yourself for nearly two decades.

how do i know? daughter is 30. single parent since she was four.

at your stage, i thought about who i'd been before daughter was born, and began revisiting that person, doing the things she liked etc. it was fun. i got some idea of who i was then, who i'd been in between, and finally, who i am now.

slow work, but worth it. good luck.

pinkpaws, i'm 45, but i'm not, its just this weariness and a treadmill. i'm so sorry for being it all about me, when theres worse off, than me.
I was abused all my life, not physically, but emotionally, "i would amount to nothing..." blah. But i did, i got my degree and my post grad, and my son is my life, he works because he knows the value of money, he's doing his AS levels,and while hes wonderful, i keep this facade up, where i'm strong, but i'm not!

b4.you've made me cry. You've nailed it, and i hope i get to where you are now, with your strength xxx

Hope you get some help toffee. Hard to do all the worrying on your own. Sounds like you're a very strong person, but no woman is an island. Share your worries on here but also in RL even with a professional. Don't be alone.

You've got some great advice here, but don't discard the last 17 years in your search for you... sure look back to who you were when you allowed yourself to really think just about yourself (yours hopes, dreams, favourite music, places etc.,) but also look at who you've become too, I mean seriously look. You have raised a lovely child from baby to man who has personal responsibility, where do you think he got that from? He's secure and happy, why? You must, when finding the next stage of you, take into account that actually, you might not feel strong, but you bloody well are strong.

You may not feel it right now because you ARE going through a change, it might not be 'the' change, but you're going to be able to think about you more. Are you happy at work? What do you do at weekends? What are your passions? What have you always put off 'until ds is older'?

I don't know you, but I think you're brill and hope you find a path that will make you feel brighter, as mum and qualitytoffee in the new, equal measure. It's never too late to have a complete change of life.

Good luck x