to want to throttle this stupid mum?

[Whirliwig72]

Took DS2 to a baby group yesterday and got chatting to a mum Ive seen a few times who told me 'oh yes I wasn't going to bring DD today as she has a chest and ear infection but I was bored at home so I Calpol-ed her and she seemed ok....'.

I look over to see a hot fevery looking baby who really should be in bed - then next minute of course DS2 picks up her dummy and puts it in his mouth . Today DS2 has a runny nose and tummy and is reaaaaaally clingy :( AIBU to be really pissed off? Not only did her daughter have a miserable time at the group but it looks like my Easter trip to the grandparents might have to be put on hold if DS2 has what she's got- arrrrrrgh!!!!

I doubt your dc has developed an illness from that dummy within 24 hours.

YANBU I come across this quite a lot actually and I never know if the parents are completely oblivious to how rotten their LOs feel or if they are just not bothered. Plus the risk of the other children getting sick too.

Hopefully she was just having an off day and isn't normally like that.

Doesn't help you and your DS though does it? Hope the poor little guy is feeling better very soon and your plans aren't spoilt.

at the risk of sounding like a mner - why weren't you watching your child more closely so he couldn't pick up someone else's dummy and put it in his mouth?

but i'm right with you re not taking sick children to places where they could spread disease. small grandaughter has been ill for weeks after some other mummy didn't want to be left out of an activity and so dragged her sick child along.

Well, you are right to think she should have been at home poor baby. But there's every chance your school was brewing it already or got it from the guy on the bus etc. there r sick people EVERYWHERE its a risk you take when you leave the house I'm afraid. Colds r in fact contagious 24 hours before symptoms start. That friend you saw yesterday who's got a cold today?....... Point is u can't pin point where and how. Hope your dd feels better soon

School? Dam auto correct -dc (wtf correction is that?????)

It's the blatantly bringing a sick baby out though that is pulling my chain! Yes I should have been watching him more closely with he dummy - really really kicked my self when I saw it going in the mouth!

Thanks for your lovely well wishes.

b4 bunnies you do sound a bit OTT - kids do this kind of thing so quickly and OP must have been watching DS pretty closely to have seen him do this just not quick enough to stop him.

First time I took DS2 to a playgroup, I turned my back to speak to someone, turned back and he'd unpacked a handbag and helped himself to a ham sandwich! It was literally seconds! True story.

My oldest used to steal wallets out of bags as a toddler - so mortifying!

Whirliwig - your username should be Fagin!

yanbu. Yes you cant avoid coughs and colds but that doesn't make it acceptable to spread it amongst young children.

[sings] In this life, one thing counts / In the bank, large amounts / I'm afraid these don't grow on trees, / You've got to pick-a-pocket or two / You've got to pick-a-pocket or two, boys, / You've got to pick-a-pocket or two.

In all honesty though baby groups r one big bug fest.More than half those babies will have older siblings carrying god knows what from school.

Some people r genuinely thoughtless though. We r all guilty at some point of dragging out less than well babies only difference is most of us don't bring them to baby groups we just can't leave our older ones at school.

Don't panic she's going to be as bad though. Your dd may well fight if off quicker without developing the chest infection. This other baby may have been really run down or prem or sick before hand and it just got harder.

You even know the words! I'm appalled/mesmerized at your criminal genius!

I would probably feel the same, more because it shows a lack of sensitivity to her own child, but to be honest short of keeping your dcs indoors around the clock there is virtually nothing you can do to stop your kids picking up bugs. And as somebody already pointed out it would typically take more like 48 hours to show symptoms so chances are this child wasn't the culprit.

Babies are germ buckets and if you put lots of babies together they will catch stuff of each other - without swapping soothers etc

I think a runny nose, bit coldy than fair enough to take them out if they're up to it. Otherwise you'd have to stay inside from October-April every year. Feverish, crying and obviously unwell or contagious with highly infectious disease like chicken pox, slapped cheek, measles etc etc not on at all to take them out.

A lady very earnestly told me she hadn't taken her baby out for 10 days because she had a cold. I was and I thought she was ott.

I hate when people bring out feverish babies. Your DS wouldn't show signs within 24 hours though so he must have been brewing it anyway. Hope he's better soon.

I am a childminder and in the past had a mum who would complain everytime her DD got ill blaming it on my setting, dispite having three older siblings all at school. Yet it was ok to give her child calpol and send her to me when she was ill so she could spread it to others. Dead give away when children fall ill around three to four hours after arrive to my house.