Aibu to be annoyed at this parent at school

[M0naLisa]

A mum at school has two kids. One in my middle sons class and one in my oldest sons class. She is a dinner lady at school.
She cheerfully informed me and DH last week that she's suffering from severe sickness and diarrhea
She's on sick from work as she can't work but yet still drops off and collects her kids from school. She has a partner who follows her everywhere. He could have dropped off and collected the kids everyday whilst she's poorly.

A school newsletter was sent out last Friday stating that children with d&s should remain off school 48 hours after the last bout of illness.

I replied to the head teachers newsletters (I receive it by email) saying he should put it in the school newsletter that the same rule applies for parents!!

Wibu and Aibu to be annoyed at her. You wouldn't send your children to school with it so why go and possibly still infect we children's classes.

Amber. I know. My point is there is a worse alternative in my case.

What worse alternative?

Sorry Im just thinking of the poor sod on benefits because he/she is undergoing chemo etc.

katie, having recently claimed jsa for a short period, i salute you!

I don't understand how your customers are 'mostly sick, most of the time' - surely ordinary benefits claimants aren't normally ill all the time?

So I assumed you work with those on ESA or long term sickness benefits - in which case it's not fair to pass on your illnesses to them. (not fair to pass them on to anyone else either)

I still don't understand

At this time of year, in my office, I kid you not, everyone is suffering from some bug or other, or have recently recovered from one.
And a Jobcentre deals with all working age benefit customers.

So the staff stay at home. What then? How will the customers get paid while we are at home? Please tell as I'm sure my bosses would love to know so our staffing can be cut some more.

The woman obviously doesn't have severe D&V if she is sitting in on an hour long stay and play session. Did you not think that part through, OP?

Briget - but the Op said that he normally goes with her to do the schoolrun. So presumably he has nothing better to do / enjoys the walk / enjoys the chat with the other parents.

If the woman across the road from me (who I have spoken to twice) was ill and I had nothing better to do and was going that way anyway then I'd offer to do the school run for her. Let alone a boyfriend I spent every day with.

What a dickhead. You OP not them

Judging people should be an Olympic sport as going by some of the posts on here recently we'd win every fucking time.

You should come judge me and my partner as I follow him everywhere too its kind of because of the seperation anxiety, attachment disorders, depression and severe anxiety that I do it but hey he probably looks like the sort of person you'd see jacking up against the school wall anyway. Thing is you don't see the amazing things he does for me and our DD oh and his disabled mum. Same as you wouldn't with this couple you just drag up your ignorant judgy pants and look down your nose at them.

MummytoKatie, yes but there is a difference between him tagging along and leaving the responsibility of getting the kids to school with him. They don't live together, we don't know how committed the relationship is. Yes in an ideal world it would be nice if he could do that. But I don't think it's fair for other people to judge the family as a whole because he doesn't do it.

I would think an awful lot of mothers would see getting the kids up and to school as their responsibility and wouldn't want to pass that onto whichever boyfriend or partner they happened to have at the moment, even if they were ill.

Katie, isn't a lot of it done by computer now? I mean I thought a lot of the admin went on via computer, and that benefits got paid into accounts rather than giros being handed out.

I have a close relative in social services and many of his colleagues work from home.

Might be wrong though, obvs your office would already do this if it was an option I guess

He is the kids dad. I know about their set up cos she joyfully told me about it. If they live together they get less money so he moved out and got a flat and they claim they are single.
I could be the bitch that could dob them in but I wouldn't. Each to their own.
I'm not nasty. I just dont think she should have sat in on a class when she said shed been up all night with sickness and diarrhea. She works in the dinner hall looking after the kids not the kitchen.

And as for me taking the kids to school for her? She lives opposite end of school to me and plus if he's there anyway why should I.

erm YABU unless she was licking your children as they walked past

OP yabu loads of parents drop kids off at school ill what next if granny has D V then the kids cant go to school,

Mona,

Go ahead dob her in,they are doing nothing wrong as long as he does actually have his own place. Then tell her you did so she can avoid you in future.

You can't dob her in as he doesn't live there.

YABVVVVU. Would you want children who are NOT ill to take time off school but who's parents are to take time off school until said parents are better? Really? I can only assume you have plenty of help if you get sick- ie someone to drop your kids off at school and pick them up. I can't speak for everyone but I know I dont have that luxury!

And yes I have dropped my DC at school/nursery when feeling rough as a badger's arse from illnesses that can be passed on. most of which I've caught off the germ riddled little darlings my DC goes to school with

Adults do tend to be able to wash their hands, certainly better than many primary school age children. Far lower infection risk than a child.

you sound delightful op

The computers need to be operated and no, we can't work from home.