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To find this friend wrong for doing this?

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pumpkinsweetie · 21/03/2013 13:05

I have a friend who ive known since school posting all sorts of bitchy quotes & pictures all over Fb about me because she can't be bothered to sit and have an adult discussion with me, so chooses to diss me on a social network.

We had a falling out yesterday because i said her and her partner were not spending enough time together and i was worried about her as she had been complaining of late about the lack of attention and help he gives her in the home.

She was fine after i'd said this although a little disappointed that id pointed out something she'd been thinking about for months, but she spent the rest of the day with me, came to the school run with me and we parted at the school gates on normal happy terms. She said before she left that she would have a talk with her partner when home and not to worry.

She text me a friendly text at teatime, but less than 4 mins later she phoned me explaining that she thinks im highly opinionated and if i have an opinion i should keep it to myself and that its my fault her partner is now mad and that they are arguing and that their relationship is great and they have no problems. She then slagged me off for over half hour saying im a rubbish friend and im this and that and how her other friend is different and that she wont forgive me for disecting her relationship. I had only said one thing fgs.

So all the chances she had to talk to me yesterday she chooses to rant and rave at me down the phone and all of today she has been liking pictures clearly aimed at me and has even shared one saying in detail how i was not obviously a friend to begin with along with a load of sarcastic quotes and how i should rent my own stage etc and that i should hurry up and delete her.

I haven't commented or retaliated in anyway as i believe facebooking problems solves nothing and is totally wrong.
Aibu to be upset and think its wrong to oaste such hatred all over fb.

She also does similar when her and her partner have had an argument and tbf she has had opinions far more worse than this of others.
I'm also dumfounded as to why if things are so perfect choose to make this out to be a bigger thing than it is. After all i was only worried for her, its not as if i said lots. I also don't understand why she went home and told her partner for, have an argument then blame me!

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TheSeventhHorcrux · 21/03/2013 18:11

Doesn't sound like you are getting anything from this friendship. I would cut her out.

Lotkinsgonecurly · 21/03/2013 18:25

Just delete then block her, much easier!!!!

WinkyWinkola · 21/03/2013 23:08

You'd be surprised at how others view her posts about you. They could well be convinced you're the bad guy.

You've got to shed this person. She will never bring positivity to you. I sound like Mystic Meg here but she's a bit mad and will always blame others for the situations she is unable to handle herself.

Keep well away from her. I wouldn't delete her on FB as it could inflame her even more. Just retreat quietly, slowly and if she 'pursues' you, be polite, calm and neutral in everything you say.

Ultimately, wish her well but give her nothing to build her anger upon. You sound like a kind person and you will get really hurt otherwise.

pumpkinsweetie · 22/03/2013 12:51

I think you are right wonka and tbh i don't want a 'friend'in my life.
If a supposed friend can say such crap about me then they are not worth my time or effort.
She is the real loser here, she has lost a friend and may even lose her partner if she continues this self destructive behaviour and i myself have lost nothing although it seemed that i had yesterday.

I have come to realise she had a negative effect on me anyway and tbh she brought me down with her.
I wasted my time worrying about her when i should have been paying attention to other friends & family who appreciate me for the kind, giving person i am.

In fact has done me a favour.

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