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AIBU?

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AIBU about leaving 17 mo DD with nana for a week?

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OhWhatAPalaver · 19/03/2013 08:59

So we have decided NOT to take DD to Glastonbury with us as we feel it won't be right for her just yet - plus we are in need of a break! - and my mum has very kindly agreed to have her for the week (well nearly a week, 6 days to be exact).
My problem is that she has only every stayed at her nana's a handful of times but has been fine on all occasions and she does enjoy seeing her nana very much and sees her at least twice a week. My DP seems to think I'm worrying for nothing but she can be quite clingy to me and has only ever been away from me for the odd day/night.
So what are your opinions? Has anyone ever left their DC with a relative for this length of time when they are this young? Will she be ok?
I'm thinking of going down a bit later so i will only be there for 4 days rather than 6 but its a last resort kind of thing really. I would be interested to hear what other have experienced and i hope i am being unreasonable! :)

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MummyNoName · 19/03/2013 09:03

Maybe start leaving her there for two days/three days so she can uses to you being away.

You know your dd better than anyone. I'd go with your instinct. A friend left her 4 mo baby to go on a hen week holiday, I wouldn't have done but each to their own.

I'm sure they'll be be no lasting damage to your dd, just get her used to her being at her grand first.

NinaHeart · 19/03/2013 09:05

I'm sure she'll be fine and have a whale of a time. They both will!

ScarletLady02 · 19/03/2013 09:08

You've got time to have a few longer "stays" in between haven't you? Maybe try a weekend and see how it goes....then a long weekend?

I'm sure you'll be fine.

My parents went away a few times when I was around 6 or 7 and my brother would have been around 2. We had a great time with my Nan one time, and my older brother another time (he was 20).

ScarletLady02 · 19/03/2013 09:09

BTW I'm insanely jealous of you going to Glastonbury!

MikeChoccyCoatedLitoris · 19/03/2013 09:10

I left ds with my mum and dad to go abroad when he was a similar age (they bought the holiday for my birthday)

I missed him like crazy but he was absolutely fine.

I'm just at glastonbury.

mashpot · 19/03/2013 09:10

I think it sounds fine, she's not a tiny baby. Good idea to fit in a weekend break or two in between to build up to it.

exoticfruits · 19/03/2013 09:11

I think that nana and DC will love it. Just try a weekend or two first to get her used to it. Much better than taking her.

ScarletLady02 · 19/03/2013 09:12

Take her when she's a bit older though....I went to Glastonbury in '87 when I was 3 (nearly 4) and LOVED it!

DeepRedBetty · 19/03/2013 09:17

Agree she's slightly the wrong age to enjoy Glastonbury - you can take a tiny baby (I took twins festival-ing at seven months) and once they were big enough to enjoy the children's stuff they loved it - around 3 +.

Am soooo jealous....

Have a couple of dry runs (always a good idea to have a Plan B in case you've got to leave dd for another reason in the future anyway), but I'm sure it'll be fine.

JParkson · 19/03/2013 09:55

I'll probably get flamed for saying this, but I left 18mo DS with my DParents for 2 weeks when on honeymoon - they all loved it!

But he was quite used to staying here and there for the odd few days, so I second/third/fourth the suggestion to have her stay for a weekend or couple of days before the actual week.

Have fun!

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OhWhatAPalaver · 19/03/2013 10:20

Thanks for the replies, its very reassuring to hear all the positives!! Definitely makes me feel less guilty about leaving her. We will try and get in a few more stays with nana before we go, that's a very sensible idea. There's no one else in the world i would trust as much as my mum to have her in this situation so in my mind that means she will most likely be fine :)

Oh yeah, for the people with the faces, the registration just opened again for the resale of tickets from the people who put deposits down but can't go, so there is still a chance!! :)

Thanks again for the messages, very reassuring :)

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Szeli · 19/03/2013 11:00

Waaaa Glastonbury :( I've just pulled out as DS will only be 10 weeks or so and I'm gutted. I'd have to be in site at least two weeks tho (staff) and I couldn't face baby in a tent or leaving him for 2 weeks.

I do not think you're being unreasonable at all tho; just a couple if tester runs before hand and its only 4/5 days. That'll fly by in baby time xx

LazyMonkeyButler · 19/03/2013 11:03

We left our then 13 month old DS1 with his grandparents for a week to go on honeymoon. He was fine.

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