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To think that dh should let me sleep?

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washngo · 17/03/2013 23:16

I am 39 weeks pregnant. I have spd, nausea, heartburn, painful braxton hicks and am exhausted from looking after my 2 and 4 year old. I could (theoretically, although i will probably be overdue) go into labour and need my energy reserves any time. With all this in mind could my husband not refrain from prodding me awake, and telling me to turn over and snore in the other direction? I am now wide awake, and cannot sleep. Surely at this time my sleep is more important? Is that terribly selfish? I feel like this is just demonstrating a total lack of care or thought but maybe I am over thinking...

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Helltotheno · 17/03/2013 23:19

Yanbu. Any other bed you could kip in for the time being?

WorraLiberty · 17/03/2013 23:20

Oh I'm sorry you're awake at this time of night...I know how awful it is when you can't get back to sleep.

But I have to say, my DH was snoring like a goodun this morning from about 4am onwards and by 5.30, I honestly could have thrown a bucket of water over him because I needed to sleep too.

I'm not really sure you can 'reserve energy' as such because you've had a dodgy night's sleep so don't let that worry you...I'm sure if you go into labour you'll be fine.

But I have to say, I am sympathetic to you both on this.

LindyHemming · 17/03/2013 23:20

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washngo · 17/03/2013 23:21

Sadly not, children in bunk beds in second bedroom, third bedroom only big enough for cot, and definitely not in a fit state to sleep on the sofa.

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DragonMamma · 17/03/2013 23:23

I cannot abide snoring so I can empathise with him I'm afraid - preg or not, I'd feel murderous at being kept awake by those bloody rumbles.

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washngo · 17/03/2013 23:24

Although euphemia that is a good point, no reason why dh can't sleep on the sofa.

Worra - thank you that makes me see it from his perspective a bit!

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thezebrawearspurple · 17/03/2013 23:27

Send him to the sofa? I poke dh when he keeps me awake snoring so your husband has my sympathy but under the circumstances you need the bed so if he can't sleep with you in it and keep his hands to himself, you have to kick him out.

WorraLiberty · 17/03/2013 23:28

I really really do feel for you OP.

But I honestly have to say that constant snoring for me is like listening to your neighbour's car alarm going off all night.

It makes me feel stabby...sorry Blush

TheSeniorWrangler · 17/03/2013 23:30

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YorkshireTeaDrinker · 17/03/2013 23:35

Yanbu. If he can't stand the snoring he should vacate to the sofa. That's what I do (when my poking and prodding fails to get DH to turn over).

WafflyVersatile · 17/03/2013 23:36

Yep, tell him next time to sleep on the sofa. You can't help that you're snoring and you need the bed more and sleep more. You can't reserve energy but starting your labour already knackered isn't helpful.

AudrinaAdare · 17/03/2013 23:45

You are not being selfish and he is being an utter cunt. Let him sleep on the sofa and wake him up each time you get a kick or a pang so that he can semi-share the miracle of pregnancy. You need space and as much rest as you can get before the ordeal of labour. Rocket Surgery it is not.

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washngo · 17/03/2013 23:47

Having put the light on to read so that he can sleep more easily he has finally put the light off and of course gone straight to sleep. I will now lie here for hours I expect! Am going to try and get some sleep now though- tomorrow's another day to get through after all! Thanks for all the replies.

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NatashaBee · 17/03/2013 23:48

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kissyfur · 17/03/2013 23:49

Send DH to the sofa! YANBU and he should have offered, hope you get some shut eye v soon

Cherriesarelovely · 17/03/2013 23:50

Nothing U at all. I think it is one of the most annoying things ever to be unecessarily woken up when you are already having trouble sleeping. My (otherwise wonderful) DP does this but coming into the bedroom, seeing me asleep and telling me about some randomn news item she has just read about on her ipad. Aaaarggghhh! You definitely need sleep, you have alot on your plate and must be shattered. Good luck with DC 3!

Blessyou · 17/03/2013 23:53

Is he asleep now? Prod him awake and ask him to go to the sofa as his wnoring is disturbing you [evil grin]

Blessyou · 17/03/2013 23:53

Yikes, that's snoring not whoring

WafflyVersatile · 17/03/2013 23:55

No stick with his whoring is keeping you awake! That should confuse him enough to keep him awake too. Grin

ihearsounds · 17/03/2013 23:59

Time to get prodding and wakie him up, simply to ask him ridiculous questions.. Got a book, get the light on and get reading.. When he starts moaning remind him that he woke you up to begin with... Childish yes. effective yes. tomorow unless he has a death wish he wont prod you. If he does growl at him to use the sofa then, and blaim it on pain, tiredness and hormones Smile

Whathaveiforgottentoday · 18/03/2013 01:14

Ear plugs. That's how my dh dealt with the problem.

HelenLynn · 18/03/2013 01:54

Good grief. I'm two weeks less pregnant than you with not as many unpleasant symptoms and one child fewer to look after, and there is NO WAY my husband would get away with this. NO-ABSOLUTELY-NO-NOT-A-CHANCE way. Sofa or earplugs for him.

Tolly81 · 18/03/2013 02:15

YANBU. Sofa or earplugs, the choice is his. And I would also get the lamp on and start reading or re-nest the bed or even just wake him up! I had HG while pg and mild SPD and whenever I was awake I was nauseous. If dh had woken me up he knows full well I would have gone crazy and dd was our first!

Jengnr · 18/03/2013 02:45

My husband spent a lot of my pregnancy in the spare room. Was easier for both of us.

It was actually because of HIS snoring rather than mine - weird because he doesn't snore normally but when I was pregnant he found new ways to annoy me :)

CalamityJ · 18/03/2013 04:48

My DH moaned about my snoring but wouldn't have dared wake a sleeping pregnant lady!! Get him some earplugs and if they can't block it out then he goes on the sofa. I think you can 'bank' sleep in the sense that you could go into labour at any time so the previous night's sleep needs to have been a good one.

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