For not wanting my parents to take DS on holiday?

[Somermummy1]

I know this sounds ungrateful but parents want to take 5 yo DS on holiday with them

If he goes this will be his first holiday abroad, first time on a plane etc etc

AIBU to want to be there when he does those things rather than just hear about it later?

We can't afford summer hols abroad this year which DM keeps reminding me but would you let your parents take your DC on their first foreign holiday ?????

[Somermummy1]

Blimey

What a can of worms I've opened!

Didn't intentionally 'change my story' my OP was about missing 'the firsts' but when I was asked questions I explained the background

Partly what my OP meant was that he's not used to travelling abroad, being in a different country, not being in familiar surroundings etc etc

Of course if it was just about ' the firsts' I'd grin and bear it.

Of course I'd give up being there to see his face if I thought he'd love it without either of his parents AND be safe and happy.

I'm his mum and I want what's best for him not for me.

That'll teach me to post hurriedly late at night without a full explanation of all the background

Now if someone could pass me a fire extinguisher for the flames that would be lovely

[theoriginalandbestrookie]

I have skimmed the thread but I'm not sure if you have stated how much involvement your DGPs have in your DS's care currently.A week is a long time for a 5 yr old.

It's the age thing that would bother me. My parents are 75 and 79 and too frail to travel by themselves never mind taking DS away with them.

It sounds like your DF really wants to show him Italy before they are too old to travel Could you suggest that they tag along on your holiday next year?

[KatieScarlett2833]

I did it. TBH it's not something I even think about now, 12 years later. I think denying them of a nice time together might still be rolling around now, though

[littlemonkeychops]

YANBU.

5 is far too young for a child to go abroad without either of their pardnts IMO. And your DM reminding you that you can't afford a hol is just mean, they can afford to take DC surely they could take you too? Seems a big tight to me.

I don't get this sense of entitlement from GPs, of course they can ask but you are perfectly entitled to say no if you're uncomfortable with it, and you are not saying no out of spite you have what seem fair reasons to me to say no.